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    Default Single parent conception - NO JUDGEMENT!

    Hi everyone.

    This is going to be a touchy topic so I ask that if you have nothing nice to say, don't respond!

    I've just come out of a relationship with the man I thought I would marry (some may remember my long-distance thread a while ago). I have a 4yo DD. I always said if I didn't have a partner at a certain age, I would TTC on my own, as I desperately want my daughter to have a sibling and I have a very strong family support base with many strong male role models. I'm not saying that is what I am going to do, but it's in the back of my mind.

    My question is, how would a single person go about conceiving, the "right" way? Just for my own information. And has anyone ever gone through this?

    I do not want a debate about how this is stupid, selfish, how a child needs 2 parents, blah blah blah. Please stick to the topic.

    TIA.

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    Hi Lucy, I would think go to your GP and ask for a referral to a fertility specialist and clinic that has sperm donors that can be used by single females. I suspect you would go on a waiting list after doing all the screening tests etc and then attempt IUI first. I think the other way is to source your own donor sperm and do your own IUI.
    There should be some other ladies on here who are going through the same thing and also some same sex couples on a similar journey.
    Best wishes x

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    My best friend is single and she's just got a BFP after going to a fertility clinic and doing IVF (she had fertility issues otherwise she would have done IUI) with donor sperm - I helped her choose him!

    She is an amazing person and will be an incredible mother.

    I wish you all the best, OP!

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    OP good luck in your journey. The truth is women have a small window of time to conceive. Both my aunties found out the hard way by waiting
    I have friends in samesex relationships and they have found various websites for sperm donors so that's also worth looking at

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    Thank you all so much for your positive comments. I'm 26 now so don't want to necessarily wait for the mythical Mr Right to come along. I thought I'd met him, but apparently not. I know I don't need a man to make me happy, but generally they are needed to make babies ;-)
    I just don't want to wait for years to find someone purely for that purpose.
    It's not something I'm looking at immediately but I'm the future, potentially.

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    Oh lovely I am so sorry I had no idea, I dont have any info I can share but I just wanted to send you some love and say sorry that I didnt know xox

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    Hi Lucymoo, there's lots of options for single parent's to have babies these days and anyone who judges you on that is old-fashioned and ridiculous, so don't ever feel like you have to justify yourself in having another baby if you want! The biggest decision you need to make is whether you ask a friend for their sperm or choose a donor. All the best with it all.


 

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