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    Default Trying for a baby with a FIFO husband

    Just have to have a little frustration vent! My partner and I are up to cyle#3 of trying to concieve (currently playing the waiting game after ovulation) but now the next couple of months when he is home don't sync with ovulation. Has anyone had this issue with a fly in fly out relationship and did it take you longer to conceive that you hoped?
    Got my fingers crossed I miss my period in a weeks time!

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    Hugs xx we had this problem when TTC our first. Unfortunately we ended up needing IVF so it took us almost 2 years to get our first baby.

    Hang in there. Sometimes cycles change, his roster could change, or he could take some holidays and then things might line up. Good luck

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    We were in that situation when I was on clomid. Did get stressful. In the end we needed ivf so wasnt a problem then. Hmmm its a tough one, sorry I cant really offer any advice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nikkistoj View Post
    Just have to have a little frustration vent! My partner and I are up to cyle#3 of trying to concieve (currently playing the waiting game after ovulation) but now the next couple of months when he is home don't sync with ovulation. Has anyone had this issue with a fly in fly out relationship and did it take you longer to conceive that you hoped?
    Got my fingers crossed I miss my period in a weeks time!
    Wow you are EXACTLY in the same position are me hun!
    I have no advice either, but my hubby is FIFO and I'm at the start of my 2WW of cycle 3 as well.
    We have decided we will see what happens, and if nothing by October then will see the doctor to see 'our options and tests.
    I think IUI is an option. However I don't know if it will work, as he was home last cycle when I O'd and we still got a BFN...
    But just going to take it relaxed the rest of the year, and then take action if nothing happens....
    Sometimes cycles and rosters change so even a difference of a day can make a baby!
    Fingers crossed for us both! PM me if you ever want to chat

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    Yup. We're in the exact same boat. My DH works 2 and 1. I went off BCP at the end of January and there hasn't been a single time that his week off has coincided with the "right time". He found out he has 5 weeks holidays owing to him, so last break he took an extra week (so this cycle is the first time we're even in with a chance - we're in the TWW now) and he's taken a whole swing off next month so we can hopefully catch O again if need be.

    We decided to do it this way and him take a week off every now and then so we can get a few months of trying properly. It makes it a little difficult when you go to the doctor otherwise and they ask how long you've been trying for. They told me to come back if nothing had happened within 6 months because I'm about to turn 35, but in the last 5 months we've technically only "tried" at the right time once!

    It is frustrating and a bit difficult. I found that I O'd 6 days late this cycle and my acupuncturist said it was because I was so stressed. I was stressed because it "had to happen" within a certain amount of days or he'd be gone again and then when he had his next lot of holidays we wouldn't catch it that time either! Sigh!

    Edited to add: My DH is actually applying for different jobs within his company to change his roster to an 8/6 now too. He wants to be 8/6 when we do have a bub, so he decided to do it now to help with the timing of conception too!

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    We are in the same boat. He was going to finally be home at the right time as of this month but wouldn't you know it af was a week late for no particular reason. It has always been like clock work until now grr. We are half joking about the possibility of freezing some of his sperm if it doesn't hapoen in another 12mths. Hope you have more luck hun

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    I am in exactly the same position. My husband works 4/1. It is his week off and was supposed to coincide with my O time but it hasn't happened yet with only two days to go. The next time he will be home at the "right time" in the end of November. I have spoken to my doctor about it and she really couldn't offer any advice, except that if everything stays the same it would still be normal if it took four years. I don't think I can wait that long!! If we don't get a BFP this time, I am considering getting a referral to a specialist to see if they have any ideas.

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    Default Thanks :)

    Thanks for the replies ladies, feel a little bit better to know I'm not alone in my frustration and difficulty!

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    I remember this well! My cycle was 28 days & my hubby's roster is 8/6 so it happened that I would ovulate while he was away aswell, I remember crying an entire day of our honeymoon when AF came cause I knew that meant we couldn't try again for months & months because of where my cycle sat... I contemplated going on the pill to try shift things! I ended up going to a naturopath to make sure I was 100% & got DH to get his swimmers checked, which was a blessing in disguise, his count was extremely low so we had to use IVF (ICSI) to conceive #1, I reckon we'd still be trying if we hadn't taken that step! So my suggestion would be get your hubby to get checked out & just know your cycle back to front, if all is well on both sides plan some leave & try like crazy!

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