The things I did differently:
- took DD to the toilet every 30 min or so. Did not 'ask' her as I don't believe they recognise that they need to go until it is too late. Playing is more fun than going to the toilet so they will always choose that first.
- didn't use a potty. I found my kids were more responsive to the normal toilet with a small seat insert.
- don't worry about poo. Get wee trained first, a lot of kids continue to poo in nappies while they work it out. Just ensure they eat lots of fibre and softening foods because if the poo hurts when it is coming out it can scare them, and they may associate that with the toilet. I use to give a pear or a prune each day just to keep her regular.
Otherwise rewards, consistency and lots of singing, dancing and celebrating. Never get angry about an accident. Try make it fun even though it's a painful process.