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    Default Will I ever go into labour?

    Last night I thought I had some pre-labour signs - a dull lower back ache & pelvic pressure/discomfort. Then at about 1am I got woken up by a painful abdominal cramp that felt like bad period pain. Once it went away I tried to go back to sleep but was unable to as I was excited.

    However that excitement soon turned into anxiety & regardless of what I tried I could not calm down. I ended up having a panic attack & I've been lying here anxious ever since.

    All symptoms I was having stopped & I'm now showing no signs of labour whatsoever.

    So does this mean I'll never be able to go into labour by myself if I keep having panic attacks, or will my body do it anyway?

    I'm really angry at myself that I possibly now stopped my labour & really sad that baby isn't coming & that I can't control my anxiety

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    Don't worry, it will happen! I spent the two weeks before labor thinking I was about to go into labor! I'd have a couple painful contractions and then nothing for a couple days. It's common for 'pre-labor' to go on for a week or two before things get going. The morning I actually went into labor I spent a couple hours trying to figure out if I was in labor or just had to poo . When I finally decided it was labor I burst into tears and called DH telling him I wasn't ready! I had a dr appt that morning and when I went in I was already 5cm and sent straight to the hospital! I spent so long thinking it'd never happen and then it felt like it snuck up on me.

    It will happen. How many weeks are you now?
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    40 weeks tomorrow.

    I'm just concerned that my anxiety & panic attacks will stop me going into labour in the first place, or at least stop it progressing. Is that likely to be the case? Has anyone with a badly controlled anxiety & panic disorder ever gone into labour themselves, or did u have to be induced?

    I'm scared of having an induction & I don't want to have one just cause I'm too anxious to go into labour naturally.

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    I don't think it can stop it from happening but it can slow it down. Think of a deer in labor, if all of the sudden it sensed danger it's body would stop labor so that it could escape, a flight or fight response. Humans are the same, if we're too scared our bodies will respond. This is why they tell you to practice relaxation techniques while in labor, because the more relaxed you are the more you help your labor progress.

    Maybe download a relaxation or hypnosis app to listen to help you calm down and focus on something? I have some on my phone, let me grab their names....

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    The 'sleep easily' one definitely helped me sleep for a few weeks until I got too used to her voice, then she annoyed me .

    'Breathe 2 relax' is a good one to help you learn how to slow your breathing down when you're anxious.

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    Yeh that's what I thought <img src="images/smilies/frown.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Frown" smilieid="11" class="inlineimg"

    I can't do breathing exercises, they make me worse. Some relaxation music helps but if I end up really anxious to the point of having a panic attack there doesn't seem to be anything that works to calm me down
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    Just try to remember that every single contraction is actually preparing your body and uterus for birth. They are not wasted. They are probably even effacing and thinning out your cervix at this point! So when you get a contraction but it goes nowhere, don't get discouraged. Be excited that it means your body is gearing up for labour and once it properly arrives, it will more likely be shorter because of all your pre-labour!

    Also you may think breathing doesn't work but if you really concentrate, it will! Make sure your mouth is slightly open (you can't relax with a tight mouth). Relax your shoulders, don't tense them upward when you breathe. Move them around if you have to, anything to avoid tensing your muscles up. And breathe deeply I personally love the guided meditations, that's how I fall asleep every night. On iTunes/app store you can get ones tailored to pregnancy and birth.

    Eta: with the breathing, I know when you are anxious you tend to breathe huge deep breaths hoping it will work and it actually ends up helping the panic feeling! Slow it down, and concentrate more in relaxing the muscles of your body and your breathing will come more naturally.

    Have you got partner or friend support? It's important to get in the right frame of mind, remember fear=tension=pain. The more open you are to labour and contractions the better it will be. Check out some birth affirmations online too, and maybe choose some you like and resonate with you.

    I bet you anything it's not long at all now!
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    Breathing exercises make me have panic attacks cause it feels like im not getting enough air.

    I was told by the midwife at antenatal classes that anxiety & stress will stop labour. So how is it even going to start when im already having panic attacks?


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    Quote Originally Posted by heartstringz View Post
    Breathing exercises make me have panic attacks cause it feels like im not getting enough air.

    I was told by the midwife at antenatal classes that anxiety & stress will stop labour. So how is it even going to start when im already having panic attacks?


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    The breathe 2 relax app lets you set how deep/long you want the breaths to be. Set them at what's comfortable for you and keep practicing. Like mentioned above, I've set them too long and deep before and then panicked because I felt like I couldn't breathe or keep up.

    Also like pp said, all this prelabor is getting you closer. That was my poorly made point before, the whole reason I was already 5cm when I thought I'd only just begun was because my body had obviously been working at it for a while.

    Do you have a midwife or OB? I think you should contact somebody about your anxiety regarding your birth and ask all your questions. If not call your hospital and speak to a midwife.


 

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