I definitely agree it depends on the situation and the family.
I have a 6yr old, an almost 4yr old and a 1yr old. My middle som has extra needs and is extremely demanding and after a meeting with DS1's teacher last week we're now exploring the possibility of DS1 having SPD as well. My husband leaves for work between 4:30and 5am, but he is home at 4pm. I am up at night with our middle son every single night, my DS1 sleep walks most nights and night terrors...my 'job' as a SAHM isnt easy. I dont get to just go to lunch with a friend, go shopping or do whatever I want easily. I have limited contact with adults in person because my son doesnt always cope. I want to work but its in the best interest of our son for one of us to be home and DH earns more.
He has a pretty physical job but it is a job he absolutely loves. He has mates he works with, he gets to ride his motorbike to and from work which he loves.
So it works for us. It is necessary for me for him to help out. But I definitely understand not all families are the same as us.
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