The only thing that scares me about dying is how my children would cope with it, how will my husband cope, will he do things the way we've discussed etc
Id hate for my children to find me or see me dead. (Absolutely no viewing when im dead) and thats why i hug and kiss my children and tell them i love them every time we say goodbye because i dont want them to feel like they didnt get to.
This is an interesting topic, I think about it every now and then but try not too. I hate thinking I may die - it makes me feel sick to think about it.
I don't think about how I'll die so much just what happens after. That's what scares me not knowing what happens. I want to believe that there is something more. I can't get my head around that once your gone your gone for good.
I can't think too much of death because the thought of it terrifies me. I have my faith and believe in heaven but every now and then, doubt creeps in. The thought of losing my mum and aunty (and my kids obviously) makes me sick. What if I never ever see them again? What if instead of seeing them in heaven, when I die there is nothing? I just can't/don't want to comprehend it.
To me death is like birth. Not in a spiritual sense. Just in a sense that most women are not looking fwd to birthing, then they want kids, then they get UTD and by about 37wks are so ready for it
So to me life is like pregnancy, it's a very enjoyable journey and I think I'll be ready for the next stage once it comes.
Obviously I feel different about young deaths
That's what worry me most. I don't fear pain, but I'd fear too die too young.
I understand this feeling well. After losing my son 14 years ago it hit me like a tonne of bricks. Before then I didn't think about it much at all.
I researched near death experiences as a way of alleviating my anxieties and hoping his short life wasn't all there is and (because religion did nothing for me they all seem weird to some degree).
Now I have lost a close family friend. That feeling of being lost returned for a while. But also hope!
Because I know I dreamed about him the night he would have died. It was unpleasant but it can't be a co incidence since his death was sudden and he wasn't found until a few days afterwards. He wasn't even missing the night I had the dream.
Now my focus is on exploring this phenomenon a lot more with myself.
This article explains quite well what I believe happens and what life really is about.
Last edited by KaraB; 23-10-2014 at 07:05.
...personally I think the "after death" feeling would be very similar to the "Before conception" feeling.
I've shared my experience on here a couple of times so some of you might already know it.
I always kind of just had this belief that there was "something" after we die. A spiritual world of sorts; not heaven based on the biblical description, not even a destination as such... just a belief that when our physical carriage dies our souls/spirits remain somehow.
That notion was confirmed for me when I saw a ghost. Even typing that I kind of cringe, because it sounds so silly, I get that...but it's what I saw and, seeing is believing.
I saw her along with three other people so there was absolutely no questioning it. Now if someone tries to tell me that death is just nothingness, I think back to that glowing, shimmering, smiling lady, bathed in white light with features a clear as day and surrounded by an almost sparkling white aura as she waved us goodbye and think...you'll see one day
It's comforting to know that there definitely is "something" else, but death still terrifies me and boggles the mind.
I dreamed of the death of my uncle a week before he died and he wasn't elderly or sick, so that definitely shook me up.
Me 32, He 35, DS 14, DD 2
Last edited by ~Marigold~; 23-10-2014 at 09:24.
I have already replied to this thread, but the mention of dreams has brought something else to mind. I had wonderful dreams from my mother and also from my grandmother after they had passed, and both dreams brought me so much comfort, and peace, so I firmly believe that death is not the end, and it is all a circle of life. birth, death, love is eternal. hugs, marie.
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