Names... Hmm... Far out lol. It's such a big task to chose someone else's name! @Boxergirl are you keeping your top names under wraps? We have had a few names from on the list from a while back but I want more options.. So the search is on. We won't choose bubs name til they are born and we get to know them a little. We also said we wouldn't introduce the baby with a name to everyone else for at least 24 hours just to be sure that we have given ourselves time to pick a name that suits. I guess that might change if we are suddenly 100% after meeting bub.[/QUOTE]
Tell you ours if you tell us yours lol
Lol we'll tell you ours when we have some! Right now our list is almost non-existent!
What have you got so far? We won't steal them 😉
It would be hilarious if some were the same though... You would never believe me anyway Hahahaha
Dp used to need 8hrs solid sleep or she would be vomiting and a total write off the next day so that was quite hard when ds1 was born but this time, now that she birthed ds2, she is doing crazy good with little sleep and I'm struggling instead! It's amazing what the pregnancy hormones do for you!
As for expressing to let the other parent feed:
I think that is a good idea but really establish good bf 1st. Dp has inverted nipples and didn't do any research or practice on how to bf so when ds2 was born, he couldn't latch and she gave him formula and then expressed milk. By the time she researched techniques, it was too late and he was used to the bottle. She was happy to keep expressing and still does 3 or 4 times a day but it takes a lot of effort. Bf is taxing on the bf person but it really is easier overall if you can get a good supply.
we have found mix feeding to be a more shared experience though I guess. And dp bonded to ds1 (who I bf) just as much as I have bonded with ds2 who is bottle fed.... So really do what ever works
I'm really hoping that those hormones kick in for me too and keep me going on little to no sleep! I can function but I get irritable when I'm tired so I feel sorry for DW!
Yeah initially we'll try and keep it to boob feeds only while bub and I get the hang of it and then I'll try and pump to get DW involved in feeds as well.
It's good point about researching and being prepared. I'll try and learn as much as I can before bub arrives but I guess it will be trial and error to begin with. I hope that I get a decent supply!
It's good that Sonny is being such a good little bub 😊
Pretty sure we need some updated pics of the bubs!
We then bought a pump (spectra S2) and booked in with a lactation consultant recommend by another lady in our dig. From the start of week three we got a routine from the LC and haven't looked back. Tbh 3 hour feeds during the day and 4 hours at night didn't leave a lot of time for much. As each feed was taking an hour - 30 min breast then top up then 30 min pumping or formula/breast bottle then 30 min of pumping. While we were both home easy to manage, however while I was at work K was saying it could take 1:30 if DD was unsettled.
The upshots to having a routine?
1- weight gain to keep the MCHN happy.
2 - I could help with feeds while K pumped and have quality time with DD
3- 9 weeks later DD gets it and isn't cluster feeding or waking at all hours.
We had to top up with formula for 6-7 weeks but have been ebm for around 3 weeks now, this makes K feel so proud.
In terms of lack of sleep? We never had more than 6-7 hours pre baby so I thought we would be fine. And for the most part it has been. There has been 1 day at the start when I was so tired I felt hung over and the 3 pm slump at work is a real thing. K and DD however go for another sleep around 6-9 or however the feed works out and they seem to manage with that. I've been known to have a snooze on the couch after dinner with DD as it gets closer to the weekend.
We prepared for the worst, accepted that it would be hard and to not be too set in how we wanted things to be. So far this is working for us.
Sounds like you are on a good path chekry
Naps are the best things ever!
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