Oh no 😔 sounds like a really rough time. Did she say why she wanted to do an egg pick up? Has she talked about it before in the past? It seems like she is trying to find her place in the family which I guess can be tough for the other person but I completely get why it would make you feel like the present doesn't matter.
Do you think the time apart or her going away for this weekend will help? Has anything like this ever happened before? Sorry for all the questions. Vent away hun and big hugs.