DS is nearly 5, he was fairly easy to toilet train initially but would have accidents when in a new/exciting environment. We always thought it was just him getting distracted / being too lazy to bother going to the toilet but the problem has got worse rather than better and he starts school next year. We have a few weeks with no accidents / just minor wee/ soiling... then we have another few weeks of frequent wee/poos. I get him to sit on the toilet every morning and after his bath and this does help but last few days it's not been enough he is doing large poo's in his underpants before he's taken to the loo or middle of the day (he is in preschool 4 days a week so hard to set times during those hours).
My partner just thinks he is being lazy and can't be bothered to go, I used to feel like that and got quite angry with him but that never helped it just made him try and hide his accidents. Now I feel it is something medical and probably encopresis as I'm sure most of the time he does not know he has gone. I don't know if he doesn't feel it when it's happened or is embarrassed? DP just thinks he pretends he doesn't feel it. I don't agree. Sometimes when he sits to do one he will cry out that it hurts or tell me he couldn't get any out, but when I go to check he has done one. That strikes me as being more of something he is unaware of.
Sorry for long ramble. I'm going to take him to our GP but from reading the other thread on here I wonder how much help that will be?? We have a newborn at home now and changing her nappies 10 times a day is much easier than dealing with DS's accidents!!