Hi ladies - please let me preface this thread by saying that I do (at 41yo) understand ‘bloat’. The fact is, I am showing. The purpose of this thread is really more to get your advice/views on announcing a pregnancy earlier than the accepted 12 weeks.
I’m currently 7 weeks P5DET and have my BFP. This is my 4th IVF cycle since my son was born with IVF help in 2012. I have moderate endometriosis and advanced adenomyosis. The latter condition means I have, as my FS puts it, ‘a very ugly uterus’, and one that is big even without babies in it.
At this point, when I lie flat on my back I can feel my uterus in my tummy, from just under my belly-button to just above my pubic bone. I can actually cup my hands around it. When standing, I look like everyone should definitely know by now.
Now obviously, I still have a very long way to go, especially when I remember that I have lost babies further along than this little one. However, how do I hide this? I feel like we’re all just ignoring the growing elephant in the room.
My question is, what are your thoughts on announcing your pregnancy early? If so, when is ok? How do you think today’s society handles it when things go wrong then? Is that the only reason we don't tell people <12wks?
I’d also love to know if anyone else (with adenomyosis or without) has genuinely showed this early?
Thank you lovelies.
Sedg 41 (endometriosis, adenomyosis), husband 32 (perfect)
1st IVF cycle, 12/11: 2 trans, 4 frozen – our beautiful son born 08/12
1 natural pregnancy, 09/13: m/c at 9 weeks
1 FET, 04/14: 4 defrosted, 2 trans, BFN
3 ET, 06/14: BFP