I'm new to this site and am after some advice
I know this question has been asked a lot in the past but thought I would still ask for some advice/opinions regarding our particular circumstances. Sorry if this rambles on a bit.
So my husband and I are trying to decide if we want to have baby number 3, we were really keen and going to start trying soon but when we actually sat down and talked about it we weren't so sure.
We have 2 beautiful daughters who are 3 and 8months, things are really good at the moment, I rarely feel overwhelmed we have a good routine going, the girls get on well, my husband and I are still able to have date nights & pretty much life is great. When I think about only have 2 I feel a bit sad but im not sure if I really want another baby or if I am just keen to be pregnant again ( I love being pregnant) and go through all the fun things like setting up the nursery & picking names etc & am sad just that that stage of life is behind us now...
Financially things are great we can afford a 3rd and have the room in our house and wouldn't need a bigger car, but it would mean taking a lot longer to pay off our house, no overseas holidays less dinners out trips to the movies etc but when I think about those as reasons to not have a baby they seem really shallow.
My husband is the same as me, sometimes keen sometimes not so he is no help, I would actually prefer it if he was really one way or the other so that the decision was made. I'm also worried about the stress it would put on our family and if we would just be better parents only having the 2 gorgeous girls that we already have.
But I guess I worry that I would regret it when I'm older and wish that I had had a 3rd, our problem as well is that we don't want to wait much longer, we want the kids close in age. I'm a SAHM but realistically would need to go back to work eventually to help us get in front, so want to have the 3rd while I don't have a job and am already at home.
Anyway I'm after opinions from people who weren't sure and had a 3rd or didn't have a 3rd, what made you decide either way? If you decided on 3 how is it now, is it just crazy? If you could would you possibly go back to just having 2 (not that you don't completely love your 3rd) how do you find it spreading your time over 3? Financially is it that much worse or not that big a deal? From reading my post, if you were in my position what would you do?
Thank you so much for any help, I'm very confused and would love to hear what people think