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    Default Discipline

    PLEASE tell me how you discipline your toddler.

    DS3 is throwing huge crying screaming tantrums every day pretty much all day long and he never used to be like this.

    He used to be such a sweet kind nice kid.

    He just demands stuff, screams when he doesn't get it, cries for no reason and it's taking it's toll.

    I'm desperate for tips

    Please help!

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    We use quiet times. They have to sit in a delegated area by themselves until they calm down. Then they have to come out and say sorry.

    This age group is very challenging! I can sympathise.

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    Not sure yet as my DS is thankfully not there yet, but I have read 123 Magic, and even if you didn't use the strategies there is a lot in there that is really worthwhile reading, in terms of little habits that creep in and the reasons for certain behaviours. I know you're probably flat out but it's available as in iBook.

    I also like time out/quiet time but instead of a 'sit and think about what you've done' approach, just a 'sit and decide' as in, sit on this step until you've decided that you can clean up your toys without screaming.

    I know you're doing it tough at the moment. Hang in there x

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    Did he just turn 3?

    My DS was awfully behaved for a few weeks not long after he turned 3. We avoided taking him out in public as much as possible for a little while because he was having the most vile meltdowns. It was really tough.

    I found out that a lot of parents experience the same behaviour from their boys at this age - apparently they have a huge surge of testosterone which can cause the crazy behaviour. I believe this was what happened with my DS.

    We use time out for discipline in our house. If he hasn't calmed down after a few minutes he gets put back in time out to calm down further.

    At 3 years 4 months now, I'm pleased to say he's a lot better behaved!

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    I'm still trying to figure it out with my 6 year old! lol. I take away things and when they are well behaved they get it back... but soon as a tanty appears, it's gone again.

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    @Degrassi yes he did just turn 3 end of May.

    I have tried time out, I've tried taking toys, turning tv off, putting him in his room, ignoring him, yelling (even though I know that's not the right way)

    I am just not coping with it and neither is DH. I have patience usually but lately it's wearing very thin.



    I haven't read 123 magic yet - how do I get it as an e-book?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    I haven't read 123 magic yet - how do I get it as an e-book?
    You could try Amazon and get the kindle app for your phone.

    We've used quiet time as pp have mentioned, but have also used stickers when he's good and go to town talking it up. He's also responded really well to us having a sit down discussion as to why some behaviours aren't a good choice.

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    yeah we used a lot of the strategies from 123 magic.


    and other than that - just crossed fingers and waited until it passed


 

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