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    Nereid... wow, you're straight back into it! Well done :-) Yes, I think we all do that, search for as much information as we can, hoping that it's going to work for us. I've really come to the realisation that it's going to work for some and not others. there isn't one particular technique or protocol or medicine that will definitely work. Everyone is trying all sorts of combinations, but I wonder how much luck plays a part?

    Leyshoja... yes, many of us have stopped joining those monthly threads. Yes, they particularly move fast, but I prefer "hanging out" with those who have similar things to me (e.g. age or issues). One or two cycles ago, I also got something like "tinnititus" in one of my ears, but had never had it before. I kind of had a cold at the same time, so went to the doctor, who said there wasn't much to be done for it. I was worried that it wouldn't go away (really didn't need any other medical issues!!), but after the cold went away, it did too. Interestingly, my FS has agreed to let me do an IU if this last DE cycle doesn't work. Slightly crazy, I know, but I never did an IUI, and I have this fixation that IVF isn't working for me, because my uterus doesn't like being prodded and poked all the time, and that it might work if it's just natural!! I know, crazy, right?!! But considering how much money I've spend on IVF, doing an IUI is just a drop in the ocean! When does your donor go for her first scan?

    Kelly70.... how have your scans been going? I think you must be getting close to EPU, in the next week or so?
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    really sorry to hear that @Nereid

    I think the odds are with you if you are getting embryos to freeze. How many do you get at EPU? Thats the problem with my cycles is that they put back the 'best' one at day 5 but seeing as all the rest end up in the bin by day six (never good enough to freeze) I have my doubts about the quality of the ones transferred. I thought 5 blastocysts transferred (over 5 cycles) would snag me something this year but coming down to the last cycle.....its not looking good.

    I'm going to book a holiday around D-Day (maybe Tassie) so that I am not at work this time. Plus a celebration of leaving IVF behind and spending money on something that doesn't involve getting needled in the vagina.
    @leyshoja I hope you get that bub in your belly soon so that your sadness will be eased I look at my folks and frankly I don't feel like I'm a mini me of them, not by a long shot. I could easily be adopted I reckon.
    @MGC Bertie you're cycling November too, lets hope its a good month and we get some early xmas presents.

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    Bongley... oh, you do make me laugh - "spending money on something that doesn't involve getting needled in the vagina." !!

    I am the spitting image of my Mum, and have been through all those same thoughts for using donor eggs - never get a chance to see my offspring - what would they look like (me, my Mum, some other relative) and would they have the same personality traits like me (intelligence, behaviour etc). I cried, no howled, over these things for ages in the early years. Now when I think of it, I just shed a small tear, and just focus on the possibility of getting any baby in my arms (donor eggs would be great, but looking now into the real possibility of adopting or fostering, since there's only a couple of options left now and at some point we have to move on). Very sad, but it's becoming a reality.

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    @Bongley, I look at my young nieces and can only see their mother's side of the family, I can't see my brother in them at all and I know it really doesn't matter. @MGC Bertie I don't know when the donors first scan is. I suspect she goes in next Monday, which interestingly is the day I go in for my scan so I'll be scoping out the waiting room LOL. I asked them a lot of questions about her and her cycle, but missed that one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MGC Bertie View Post
    Bongley... oh, you do make me laugh - "spending money on something that doesn't involve getting needled in the vagina." !!

    I am the spitting image of my Mum, and have been through all those same thoughts for using donor eggs - never get a chance to see my offspring - what would they look like (me, my Mum, some other relative) and would they have the same personality traits like me (intelligence, behaviour etc). I cried, no howled, over these things for ages in the early years. Now when I think of it, I just shed a small tear, and just focus on the possibility of getting any baby in my arms (donor eggs would be great, but looking now into the real possibility of adopting or fostering, since there's only a couple of options left now and at some point we have to move on). Very sad, but it's becoming a reality.
    A nurse at one of my EPU's said a friend of hers tried ivf for years before moving onto fostering. She took on 2 babies (at separate times) and had since adopted them both. Apparently there is some 'loop hole' that allows the child to be adopted in 90% of cases. Don't ask me what the loop hole is though. I never asked her to elaborate because I was so sure that I would eventually get some success and was not interested in fostering. You could always go on the wait list at my clinic for donor eggs. They are in QLD though. Their turnaround is around 12 months. My donor lives away and the clinic get around the distance with not many issues - she has her initial scans in her home town, meds get posted etc.

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    Leyshoja.... oh, wow, so you haven't meet your donor? I guess that's the same as the anonymous donor sperm that we're using here. I've always been a planner all my life, so this, not getting pregnant thing was not in the plan!! We have my sister's final donor egg for FET, then possibly an IUI (using donor sperm) - just for the sake of not having done an IUI before! Then we'll go to SA and try young donor eggs. There' good success rate - about 60% at the moment, but I'm realistic that it means 40% are unsuccessful :-( We'll do that once, maybe twice, then we have to call it quits.

    Surrogacy is not an option, as we don't have eggs or sperm!! I would like to do fostering or adopting as the final back-up plan, but DH is against this. Secretly, I hope to convince him, if it comes to that. Yes, I've read into Banardos here in NSW, and they have a type of fostering that often leads to adoption, so that's what I would try for, though it requires 12 months off work (min), so will have to investigate now if adopting will count as "maternity leave" or quit my job if it came to that.

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    @MGC Bertie, nope its completely anonymous. She or we can request a meeting but they only organise it if both parties want it. I'm not interested (at this point) and she's not, so I'll leave it at that for now.
    I thought adoption leave was considered exactly the same as maternity leave. It is in my company anyway...
    Regarding that 60% success rate - I questioned success rates with my clinic as I've seen sites online that say with young eggs the success rate is around 50%, but my clinic reckon that even the youngest and most fertile people have only around a 30% chance of pregnancy each month and that can't be improved upon. The 60% must come from the fact that they will transfer 2 embies? I'm only allowed one

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    @MGC Bertie, how long does it take from your initial appointment until embryo transfer in SA ? If this donor cycle is not successful I'm not sure what I'll do after that..

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    Quote Originally Posted by MGC Bertie View Post
    Leyshoja.... oh, wow, so you haven't meet your donor? I guess that's the same as the anonymous donor sperm that we're using here. I've always been a planner all my life, so this, not getting pregnant thing was not in the plan!! We have my sister's final donor egg for FET, then possibly an IUI (using donor sperm) - just for the sake of not having done an IUI before! Then we'll go to SA and try young donor eggs. There' good success rate - about 60% at the moment, but I'm realistic that it means 40% are unsuccessful :-( We'll do that once, maybe twice, then we have to call it quits.

    Surrogacy is not an option, as we don't have eggs or sperm!! I would like to do fostering or adopting as the final back-up plan, but DH is against this. Secretly, I hope to convince him, if it comes to that. Yes, I've read into Banardos here in NSW, and they have a type of fostering that often leads to adoption, so that's what I would try for, though it requires 12 months off work (min), so will have to investigate now if adopting will count as "maternity leave" or quit my job if it came to that.
    I have always thought fostering would be a great thing to do but based on DH's reaction it will be an absolute no go. I have 2 friends who have fostered kids who are now permanently in their care but also know of someone who may lose a foster child after having them for 8 years. DH's objection is that the kids from drug addicted parents or violent homes can be very affetced. Certainly I know that's true from my friends experiences. One has a child who displays no emotion at all. They have had her since she was a baby so can only guess what has caused it. Even so I would more than consider fostering if DH changed his mind.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faithandhopellove View Post
    I have always thought fostering would be a great thing to do but based on DH's reaction it will be an absolute no go. I have 2 friends who have fostered kids who are now permanently in their care but also know of someone who may lose a foster child after having them for 8 years. DH's objection is that the kids from drug addicted parents or violent homes can be very affetced. Certainly I know that's true from my friends experiences. One has a child who displays no emotion at all. They have had her since she was a baby so can only guess what has caused it. Even so I would more than consider fostering if DH changed his mind.

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    They are some of the reasons I'm really not into it, but the main reason is I don't think I'm maternal enough to bond with someone else's baby. Although I've never been in the situation so have no idea how it would be, or how I would go. It would be a wonderful thing to do though, to give a child a loving home when they most need it.
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