Schoolyard shenanigans. Why can kids be so mean? And how the hell do I help dd6 deal with it?
This kid in her class, let's call her D, is making her life miserable. As far as I can gather (and this doesn't come just from dd6, I've spoken to parents and teacher as well) D is a controlling kid who likes to rule the roost and be queen of the playground. To achieve this she screams and yells at the other kids, forces them to play her games by her rules, and cracks it if they leave. She's not like this all the time, she goes through phases, but it's not good. She spent a large part of term 2 trying to separate dd6 & her pal T (physically dragging T away and telling dd6 she couldn't play with them, refusing to let dd6 line up with T etc). I had to go to the teacher about that.
Anyway the latest incident, it's D's birthday. All the kids got invited, including dd6, it's a disco party so everyone's excited. On Tuesday she told dd6 that she had held a meeting in the playground on Monday, and that anyone who wasn't at the meeting can't come to her party. And of course dd6 wasn't there. She's so upset, thinking she can't go to the party. I've told her that the invitation came from D's mum, and unless d's mum UNinvites, then she can go if she wants to.
How can I help her deal with this kid? It's just one thing after another, every week there's a story like this. Dd6 won't tell her to get lost, because she doesn't want to hurt her feelings.
Is it just a case of putting out spot fires until dd6 and the other kids realise they don't have to put up with her?