When dd was 6 months and I went back I was ready to go back and work.
Now that she is about to start school I wish I could have spent more time with er lately.
Having said that. Yea I would have, I love my job and love the people I work with.
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As for the arguments sake...I don't know. I know my husband wasn't on board with me being a SAHM at first. He had a mum who worked 18 hours days 6 days a week and he saw no problem with that. But he knew it was really important to me to stay home so we compromised and said I'd go back to work when the kids were all at school. I've gone to study earlier than that though, because I ended up wanting more stimulus than what I was getting, and again my DH has supported me, even though it takes me out of the family dynamics for a huge chunk of time each week and I have zero income. It's not because we don't need the money, we do. It's so I can have a career, rather than have a low income job that I hate for the rest of my life. I have supported DH in his chosen career path for the last 15 years as it is really important to him, even though I'm not always 100% on board with it and has caused our family a fair bit of stress at times over the years. It's the same with me being a SAHM for 7 years...DH found it stressful being the sole income earner at times, but supported me to be a SAHM because he knew it was really important to me, and now he is supporting me through my studies. Life isn't easy, but I think it's important to support your partner in things in their life that is really important to them. DH talks about taking a back seat in his career and being home with the kids more once I'm working. This will mean I will have to work full time, which I actually don't want to do...but I have agreed to if we can afford to live off my wage so that DH can spend more time with the kids for a few years. It's about supporting each other so that each can get the most out of their lives as individuals, as well as being mindful that it takes two to have a relationship.Therefore, I don't believe you have to be 100% on board all the time, no.
I think the connotation of a man wanting his wife to stay at home against her will is what's being thought of when someone says "I want to work but my husband wants me to stay at home". It brings with it images of a very old fashioned notion of a woman chained to the kitchen sink, so to speak.
I don't think the pp was contemplating it when both parties are ok with the arrangement.
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