A young mother, who had pre-expressed milk to accommodate her young son, left him in the care of extended family while she had an afternoon out wine tasting with a friend, expecting that the public toilets would be available so she could express and dump her milk. When the public toilets weren't available she asked to use another private room/area and was public derided and shamed.
See - it's all about language reflecting attitude...
Leaving your child with an adequate amount of breast-milk for the time away and taking a breast pump WAS planning in advance.
All the problems in the world and this is what I see a lot of people discussing on both FB and here. Meh.
I agree with the other ladies who have said it's not discrimination to refuse her access to staff only areas to pump. Surely there were toilets at an event catering for 200 drinkers (as some posts have suggested was the case). Pump in there. BF mothers don't have the right to go into private staff quarters just because they are feeding. Pumping is not BF an infant. It doesn't need to be done right that minute because the baby is hungry. She could have waited...her milk supply wouldn't dry up instantly because she missed one feed. Boobs sore yes, but it's the price you pay!
I say this as an extended BF mother who strongly supports the rights of BF mothers. I just don't think those rights extend to being catered for on a **** up.
However, the comments of the staff were immature, discriminatory and out of line. Perhaps she would have responded more quietly had the staff member not been a jerk.
**my phone keeps wanting to say pimp instead of pump...it's a bit funny when you swap the words***
Discrimination would be if the venue let this mother go into one of their private rooms to pump and dump and then I came along asking to use that room to make a phone call and they said no to me and yes to her.
Maybe then I'd also make up some reason why I was discriminated against, like I don't know, I have brown hair, or I'm South African, or my shoes weren't red.
For goodness sake, they didn't let ANYONE use their private rooms! It's not discrimination!
Yes they were rude but lots of staff are rude to me and I don't make a big song and dance of it! Plastering it all over Facebook and social media tells me she isn't at all shy or embarrassed about pumping in public.
For those who say she should have planned ahead etc, I do agree to an extent, however if she is a first time mum, perhaps she didn't think about this particular scenario, so i do feel for her, I wouldn't pump in public myself, but, I would have waited until we got to the next venue, or I would have asked the bus driver to use the empty bus, or I would have just done it in the portaloo!
If she was drinking during the day and there were no other toilets she would have had to have used those portaloos anyway! I'm sure it's not the first time she's used them..
I hate them too, they stink, they are generally dirty and yes there is normally a queue, but that's what you get when you go to these festivals and most of us know that. And let's face it, if you gotta go, you gotta go, so at some stage during the day she would have had to have used them, unless she went a pee'd behind the tank where she pumped... What's the difference if you are using the portaloo to pee or pump? You're in there anyway!
Seriously though, seems like a case of young, immature ignorant staff. If I was 16 and someone asked me for somewhere to pump I would have no idea what is was - and when I realised I would have probably been embarrassed and made a joke.
How to solve that? I don't know. Problem with society in the large
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