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    Default Men loitering outside public toilets.

    So, every evening I go for a walk and walk past two public toilet blocks. Each time I walk past I notice men sitting in their cars "waiting". Then one man will walk into the toilets and then one of the men in the cars will go in after them. Obviously they are having a rendezvous in there but what gets me is how many men are doing this. I know a lot of these men are married or in relationships with women (I have recognised two of the men) and I just wonder what is going on. I wanted to follow one of the men home and tell his wife. I have so many feelings about this...it's creepy, the diseases that are potentially getting passed on to innocent partners and wives, why on earth would you get a kick out of doing that in a public toilet?
    Ew!
    Anyway, does anyone else notice this? It makes my daily walk very uncomfortable.

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    I've never noticed it.. While I agree the partner needs to know.. I wouldn't say anything and I'm not sure you should either.

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    Oh I never would. I just said that I feel like letting her in on what's going in. I don't know her personally, I just recognize them from community functions.

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    We used to live very close to a football oval about 6 years ago. The public toilets there were very well known around town for being a err... male rendezvous I guess you would say?

    So much so that when I used to go for my walk around this oval (had a nice track with bushland and creek etc) that I was warned on more than one occasion by strangers never to walk alone there, being that I am obviously female.

    I agree it's a bit weird. I agree it is wrong if they have partners. I suppose it's one of those 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' situations as to whether you inform the partners.

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    There are quite a few "beats" in suburbia - 2 in my area I am aware of thanks to one of my gay friends who told us they are quite popular and mostly frequented by married men ( according to his experiences )
    Not sure if you have heard of "grinder" its a gay site where you type in what area you are in and see if anyone else is nearby for a meeting - the local beats are usually where they meet

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    I've never noticed myself, but my gay friend points out all the toilet block hook up places when we are hanging out..there are lots.

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    I feel like I've been hiding under a rock but I've never heard of this

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    It's been going on in the sand dunes around the beaches too since... Forever. There's certain areas everyone knows to avoid when going out for a walk/walking the dog... I feel for their wives.

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    I don't have a problem with adults doing whatever, with other adults, but I would have thought there was some law against using public areas for this sort of thing. If I was regularly witnessing this I would report it to the police or local council. and I would take a different area for my exercise.

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    The police are well aware of it. I see them at least once a week driving past making their presence known. The council have installed big lights to deter them at night but it doesn't work. I have only ever felt uncomfortable once when one of the men was watching me. I felt like it was a "keep moving" look.


 

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