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    Default How much privacy do you girl an 18 year old girl in the family home?

    We were over at SIL's place the other day to pick up young niece and take her out for the day. When we got there we didn't see older niece(18 years of age) and DH asked his sister where she was. SIL told us she was in her room with her bf watching a movie.We had noticed the door was closed. We picked young niece up at 1pm and arrived home at 7.30pm to find that the door was still closed and niece and bf were still in the room watching the same Movie!! (SO SIL told us). We just thought SIL might have gone and let her know we were there(and to meet the new BF) but that didn't happen. I don't have children and our standards would be different and I appreciate that every family has it's own rules but I was surprised at the amount of privacy she had been given.What do you think of this?My parents would never have allowed this (under their own roof).I know times have changed and she is of the legal age now but I wonder what the younger siblings think about it. She has a 7 year old sister and 8 year old younger brother. Just putting it out there..would you allow your 18 year old daughter or son, for that matter this much privacy in the family home?(ie alone with bf or gf)

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    Definitely! She's an adult. I was given complete privacy at my family home with my boyfriend when I was 18. (Yes we were bonking like rabbits a lot of the time, but that's what happens lol)

    Same went with my sister when she was that age - she's 5 years older than me.

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    I was 16 when my dad had a baby with my nanny (long story). I am now 31 and married but When I was staying with them I was not allowed to have a boy stay the night unless my half brother and sister had known them for three months. I didn't ever have boys over though because I just felt uncomfortable and disrespectful.

    In my opinion, times have changed and I guess it's ok, but socially they should teach her more etiquette and they should have come out and been friendly and said hello etc. that's just my opinion

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    Quote Originally Posted by MilkingMaid View Post
    Definitely! She's an adult. I was given complete privacy at my family home with my boyfriend when I was 18. (Yes we were bonking like rabbits a lot of the time, but that's what happens lol)
    Same

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    but socially they should teach her more etiquette and they should have come out and been friendly and said hello etc
    I agree.

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    Yes of course, she's an adult so I would definitely give her privacy. It would have been nice for her to come out and say hello, but I think that is a different issue to the allowing her privacy thing.

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    She's an adult, it's her boyfriend not some random. As for knocking and telling her your there to say hello..... Ah yes it would be polite but awkward for everyone (quick get your pants on, fix your hair).... Younger siblings wouldn't really know what they were doing and probably believed that they were watching a movie.

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    Definitely. She's an adult. Then again, I think it's weird when kids still live at home at 18, but that's a whole other thread.

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    As an adult I would allow my children as much privacy as they want.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cheese Please View Post
    Definitely. She's an adult. Then again, I think it's weird when kids still live at home at 18, but that's a whole other thread.
    Haha that would be an interesting thread!


 

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