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    Might try the spreadsheet although he always had said I care too much about who does what like I cook he does the dishes his always been s****y about that one. He got up last night when I told him to.

    Last night when putting DS to bed I tried to talk to him and asked him to go in and settle DS he completely cracked the s**ts and asked why I'm still with if I don't like how he is! Why can't he understand I'm with him because I love him it's not exactly something I can help.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    Might try the spreadsheet although he always had said I care too much about who does what like I cook he does the dishes his always been s****y about that one. He got up last night when I told him to.

    Last night when putting DS to bed I tried to talk to him and asked him to go in and settle DS he completely cracked the s**ts and asked why I'm still with if I don't like how he is! Why can't he understand I'm with him because I love him it's not exactly something I can help.


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    When he hits you with a question like that could you hit him with a questions that is as equally difficult to ponder such as "I love you. If you love me how can you not want to help me out when I am having such a rough time?"

    Sorry this may be crappy advice...

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    DH slept in iur room for the first time in a few months last night, he was also tired as he didn't sleep for 2 nights as he was travelling home etc. (Not much sympathy here)

    Anyway DS woke so many times... I don't even know how many and DH finally seems to get it.

    He woke up this morning and got ds1 at round 6;30 and let me and ds2 sleep in till 8 which was awesome! I'm still tired but the sleep in did help.

    Anyway I said to him this morning 'get it now?' And he's like 'yes, I now see what you mean' so I then went on to say it hasn't only been the 2 weeks he's been away, it's been like that a few months!

    Today I've made a point of timing his feeds and sleeps (iphone app) and I haven't fed him to sleep today and he's gone down fine. I'm going to try and stop feeding to sleep in the day and also spread my feeds out to every 3 hours as right now i just feed randomly, before a sleep, after a sleep, in the middle of a sleep. (If he wakes too early to get him back to sleep) etc and I need some 'structure' to see if a few days of this night improve the nights.

    So far today has worked out ok. Let's hope it continues.

    I just have to try something

    How was everyone else's nights?

    I haven't heard from mum at all since last night, I think she is so freaked out by what happened hoping she texts me today.
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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    Might try the spreadsheet although he always had said I care too much about who does what like I cook he does the dishes his always been s****y about that one. He got up last night when I told him to.

    Last night when putting DS to bed I tried to talk to him and asked him to go in and settle DS he completely cracked the s**ts and asked why I'm still with if I don't like how he is! Why can't he understand I'm with him because I love him it's not exactly something I can help.


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    At the end of the day he needs to realise he is the father and if you are your kids primary caregiver, he needs to step up! Either by helping you out or supporting you all financially. Yes ripple are who they are, you can't change who you are, but if he loves you and your kids then he needs to show you guys by helping out! Life is not a free ride and he needs to take some responsibility

    I'm sorry he's not being very supportive.

    Hugs xx

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    *people!!! Not ripple! Dumb autocorrect

    I can't seem to edit my post

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    DH slept in iur room for the first time in a few months last night, he was also tired as he didn't sleep for 2 nights as he was travelling home etc. (Not much sympathy here)

    Anyway DS woke so many times... I don't even know how many and DH finally seems to get it.

    He woke up this morning and got ds1 at round 6;30 and let me and ds2 sleep in till 8 which was awesome! I'm still tired but the sleep in did help.

    Anyway I said to him this morning 'get it now?' And he's like 'yes, I now see what you mean' so I then went on to say it hasn't only been the 2 weeks he's been away, it's been like that a few months!

    Today I've made a point of timing his feeds and sleeps (iphone app) and I haven't fed him to sleep today and he's gone down fine. I'm going to try and stop feeding to sleep in the day and also spread my feeds out to every 3 hours as right now i just feed randomly, before a sleep, after a sleep, in the middle of a sleep. (If he wakes too early to get him back to sleep) etc and I need some 'structure' to see if a few days of this night improve the nights.

    So far today has worked out ok. Let's hope it continues.

    I just have to try something

    How was everyone else's nights?

    I haven't heard from mum at all since last night, I think she is so freaked out by what happened hoping she texts me today.
    Sounds like a great plan! Good luck! My ds2 was up sick from about 3:30-6:30 Had to have a morning nap myself. ..

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    @SAgirl I'm so happy for you!!! I'm glad he finally gets it.
    @VicPark I often say things like that to no avail aha

    I'll see how I got with him getting up tonight and helping this afternoon. Maybe I just need to be more vocal

    He was so hand on with our DD I think DS being so sick and having so much trouble the first 5 months that it really put him off helping.

    On a top note DS only woke at 12.30 and 4.30 last night


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    So I spoke to my mum this arvo, I rang her after I posted here. She is fine but very upset and scared

    Apparently her hubby was very brave and they spent 40 minutes trying to call for help and her hubby spent the entire time in the lounge by the window trying to ward off the burglars. Apparently they broke down TWO outside doors and couldn't get in the gate, her hubby was by the window with a frying pan trying to make a noise and scare them off and stop them getting in the window, when they couldn't get in there they tried the back door. Apparently if they had tried the front door they would have got in very easily her hubby didn't see the gun at first, he just felt the bullet rush past his head and obviously saw the flash when the gun went off, he also smelt it.

    Mum said if it wasn't for her hubby then she wouldn't be alive, and I know that's true I'm so glad he was there to protect her. I look at him in a while new light now.

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    I'm glad your mums ok he obviously loves her very much


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    SAgirl...it does say NSW. Ignore me. I thought you said you were in SA...maybe I confused you with someone else.


 

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