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    @Tommi - I would have thought the receptionist at Tresillian should be treading very lightly! If she's unhappy in her job she shouldn't be doing it! She was so rude and just upset me a lot.

    I may make a complaint...

    This will be a week long stay, well 4 nights 5 days.

    They have put me as a priority due to PND And D-MER. But they ( early childhood centre) can't say when I will be booked in, that's part of the reason I rang tresillian today and got treated badly.

    Literally - my relationship with DH has also changed, it changed a heap when ds1 came along too.

    I think for us it's the adjustment of being new parents and not knowing how badly it would affect our sleep and 2nd time round I am more depressed as I'm getting even less sleep along with a tantrum throwing toddler. If it's any consolation I know how you feel. It's stressful on any relationship. I keep telling DH we are supposed to be a team but then with him booking indulgent relaxing trips for himself I wonder how much he really cares. Hopefully my email to him gives him a bit of a wake up call. If it doesn't then I know I can't rely on him or trust him to help me

    It's so hard and I obviously don't know what your relationship is like as I don't know you guys but know that lots of relationships take strain with kids and sometimes you ride it out and it becomes better after the hurdles. It's not always the end it wasn't for DH and me when ds1 came along so I'm hoping it's not the end after these hurdles with ds2. Only time will tell I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    Sorry if I should know this but is thus your first baby? I am so tired I find it hard to follow everyone's story and I have a terrible memory as it is...
    My fourth and I've just turned 24 :-0

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tommi View Post
    @LiterallyNoOne I am so sorry to hear about your relationship. My relationship with my DH has changed and we probably are not as connected due to my anxiety with DSs feeds etc. If you don't mind me asking, do you think it is stress of a new bub causing the arguments due to tiredness and stress? Would some time alone help or counseling if you are both wanting to stay together?
    @SAgirl, I cannot even imagine how tired you must feel after last night. I am also appalled by the treatment you received from tresillian. Tresillian is a service for parents who need support so the receptionist should be much more sympathetic and if possible help you wherever possible. I would be making a complaint that is not ok. I hope you get in soon, we found asking to go onto the cancellation list fantastic we got in quickly as have friends of mine. Is it a day stay or a residential?

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    Tommi we where perfectly fine before DS was born id say it's due to my postnatal depression and anxiety caused by DS feeding issues reflux and lack of sleep

    S.A girl I had the same issue with tresillian in Melbourne. I ended up at QEC they where ok.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    @Tommi - I would have thought the receptionist at Tresillian should be treading very lightly! If she's unhappy in her job she shouldn't be doing it! She was so rude and just upset me a lot.

    I may make a complaint...

    This will be a week long stay, well 4 nights 5 days.

    They have put me as a priority due to PND And D-MER. But they ( early childhood centre) can't say when I will be booked in, that's part of the reason I rang tresillian today and got treated badly.

    Literally - my relationship with DH has also changed, it changed a heap when ds1 came along too.

    I think for us it's the adjustment of being new parents and not knowing how badly it would affect our sleep and 2nd time round I am more depressed as I'm getting even less sleep along with a tantrum throwing toddler. If it's any consolation I know how you feel. It's stressful on any relationship. I keep telling DH we are supposed to be a team but then with him booking indulgent relaxing trips for himself I wonder how much he really cares. Hopefully my email to him gives him a bit of a wake up call. If it doesn't then I know I can't rely on him or trust him to help me

    It's so hard and I obviously don't know what your relationship is like as I don't know you guys but know that lots of relationships take strain with kids and sometimes you ride it out and it becomes better after the hurdles. It's not always the end it wasn't for DH and me when ds1 came along so I'm hoping it's not the end after these hurdles with ds2. Only time will tell I guess.
    Sorry for all the quotes I'm just catching up. I told my DP a lot over the last few months that I felt like ending it all I really couldn't cope anymore and honestly it's really how I felt. I couldn't tell anyone else for fear of losing my children to CPU. Who I had trouble with in the past for having pnd. I definitely know how u feel but I also know the feeling does eventually go away. Anyway telling DP was hard and he didn't understand he even got angry and scared at me over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    HGL - My nights turned to **** when DS started waking up before 11:30pm... He never used to wake up at that time before... From birth to 3.5/4 months he slept 7pm to 11:30pm (earliest)

    I also wondered if it was when DH went to bed... When we run the taps the sound is pretty loud through the house so when he brushes teeth before bed I think maybe he woke DS? Now he's in that habit?
    Can you get the taps fixed? Before I had ds2 our pipes would shudder and groan when water was run/toilet flushed etc. I was paranoid about waking the then not yet born bub, so called the plumber. It was fixed with a new tap in the main bathroom (go figure!)

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    Quote Originally Posted by LiterallyNoOne View Post
    Sorry for all the quotes I'm just catching up. I told my DP a lot over the last few months that I felt like ending it all I really couldn't cope anymore and honestly it's really how I felt. I couldn't tell anyone else for fear of losing my children to CPU. Who I had trouble with in the past for having pnd. I definitely know how u feel but I also know the feeling does eventually go away. Anyway telling DP was hard and he didn't understand he even got angry and scared at me over it.
    If you talk to a counsellor can they blab to CPU? I can't believe you have 4 kids and are still functioning. 2 kids is bloody hard enough, my hat goes off to you.!

    How has bub been going lately since the last hospital visit?

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    Quote Originally Posted by SAgirl View Post
    @Tommi - I would have thought the receptionist at Tresillian should be treading very lightly! If she's unhappy in her job she shouldn't be doing it! She was so rude and just upset me a lot.

    I may make a complaint...

    This will be a week long stay, well 4 nights 5 days.

    They have put me as a priority due to PND And D-MER. But they ( early childhood centre) can't say when I will be booked in, that's part of the reason I rang tresillian today and got treated badly.

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    I had a good one liner that you could say to the receptionist (along the lines of "you're a bit grumpy, perhaps you need a r@@t") but perhaps you can save that until *after* your stint in tresillian...

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    If you talk to a counsellor can they blab to CPU? I can't believe you have 4 kids and are still functioning. 2 kids is bloody hard enough, my hat goes off to you.!

    How has bub been going lately since the last hospital visit?
    Unfortunately yes if they believe your baby is at risk. And also unfortunately I had a counsellor that wasn't a mother so wouldn't know s**t about pnd anyway. My taps groan too I woke DS a couple days ago having a bath!! Agh that just sucks because a bath is sooooo relaxing after a long day of crying. His still feeding well and pretty happy. I think he is getting sick again though

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Can you get the taps fixed? Before I had ds2 our pipes would shudder and groan when water was run/toilet flushed etc. I was paranoid about waking the then not yet born bub, so called the plumber. It was fixed with a new tap in the main bathroom (go figure!)
    Funny you say that because my DH is a plumber... But i should have been more specific, it's actually the pipe in the wall banging and DH says we can only fix it when we renovate as have to pull the whole wall down.

    The water also makes noise when going through the pipes but not much we can do about that he's already replaced the shower taps and washers etc and it's reduced the noise a bit but there is still some noise

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    LNO - sounds like you definitely have your hands full you're doing a great job though

    Ds2 had his average 5 wake ups last night. I went to bed just after 7, even put DS2 down later hoping he would sleep his first 4 hr block while I was asleep as well... He still woke at 10

    and just as I was about to fall asleep ds1 called me!!! Argh

    Then this morning I was in such a deep sleep with ds2 and ds1 comes in at 7am and wakes us up

    The count down is on for DH to get home!!! 2 more sleeps (actually probably 20 more if you count each time I have to fall asleep and wake up again with all this broken sleep!!) and then maybe, just maybe, I can possibly sleep in one morning?


 

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