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    Default Am I making the right decision? Miscarriage at 21 weeks :'(

    I am 21 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. I went for a routine check up this week and the hospital told me they couldn't find her heart beat. I am so heartbroken, I can't eat, sleep or think straight. I went for another scan just hoping a praying that they were wrong, but sadly she has passed. It doesn't feel real, I feel like I'm stuck in a nightmare and I just want someone to wake me up already. I went to talk to the doctor today, to tell me my options. I have decided to wait for labour to come on naturally, I don't know if this is the right choice. I don't want to be induced knowing that I could be waiting at the hospital for days on the labour ward with all the other mums having their beautiful healthy babies, when I know mine will never take her first breath. I have had 4 other pregnancy, I have 3 amazing happy healthy kids and I lost twins at 31 weeks in 2011. I have had c-section with all 4 pregnancy and have no idea what labour feels like, I'm scared and don't know what to expect. This time last week I was the happiest I had ever been, it took me nearly 3 years to know what true happiness felt like again after I lost the twins. I suffered server depression, anxiety and even attempted suicide. I had a gorgeous little girl in 2013, my pregnancy with her was very complicated and I found that I couldn't get excited about the pregnancy cause I was so scared of losing her after the twins. When I fell pregnant this time I was so excited, I was picturing our future, I was enjoying getting fat, I felt like I had so much to look forward to. I now feel like my world has been turned upside down again, i have so much heart ache in front of me, delivering the baby, making funeral arrangements. Feel like I'm back at square one, I have an amazing supportive partner,. Who I can't be thankful enough for. He supports all my decisions as he just wants me to be happy but I think he wishes that I chose to be induced. Any advice would be great

    RIP my beautiful angel Ellie xxx

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    No advice but big hug to you hun. I am so sorry for your loss xx

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    Big, big hugs to you
    I have no idea what that's like to go through and for you to have to go through it twice seems so utterly unfair.
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    How long will they let you wait for labour before your own health might be affected?

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    No advice but sending you hugs xxxx

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    I wish I had some advice for you but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you in this really difficult time. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

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    Hugs. Big. Giant. Hugs

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    I can't help but I also want to give u a big hug and sooo sorry for u and your family. Life can seriously be so unfair x

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    My heart breaks for you that you have to endure this again, I am so sorry for your loss

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    I am sooo sorry


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    I can't believe what you have been through. Big hugs xxx


 

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