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    Default Should I pull her out and home school?

    My daughter is almost 8, in yr 2 at a public school. She is in a main****** classroom with Teacher Aide support and Special ed withdrawal.
    She is diagnosed with ASD, ADHD, ODD, OCD, Anxiety, multiple medical issues including requiring ng tube feeding during school hrs.
    She misses quite a lot of school due to medical/therapy appointments.
    Currently she is being assessed at a yr 1 level for 90% of her schooling, and I was recently told to still expect F's on her report card. She hates school to the point where she is having massivly agressive meltdowns every school day morning and sunday nights. Her oral eating is very poor throughout the week but improves on the weekends. She refuses to do her work both at home and school, and does not write. (poor fine motor abilities).

    Her IQ scored at 74 3 yrs ago and ive been trying to get the school to retest but they wont (im now looking into having the cognitive assessment done privatly).
    IF she were to score under 70 I will immediatly apply for her to attend the special school.

    My question is, If she doesnt score under 70 (therefore being inelligable for special school), could i, should i, pull her out of the school and home school her?
    Ive had both the head of special ed and her main****** teacher say she wont get into special school, and that i shouldnt home school because she is alreay yrs behind socially and emotionally.
    So what the hell do i do???

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    My DS only has a few of the issues your DD has and schooling has been an absolute nightmare so far. I can understand your frustration and the fact that you are giving consideration to home schooling. I think in some ways it would simply life and minimise stress but at the same time, it may add to your stress levels if you end up never getting a break yourself.

    Have you spoken to the disabilities section from department of education? My DS only has an ASD diagnosis but will have ADHD added to it and possible ODD. I was told with all 3, I would definitely be eligible to apply for a spot in a support unit. Whether the application would be successful is a different story though. Might be worth looking into?


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    Hi She is currently under the SEU at the main****** school but its not full time SEU (rules have changed) and the school is lacking funding (or at least brains on where to spend it. For example, my daughter is allocated funding for an aide to do her tube feeds every day, yet im still asked to do it twice a week because theres no aide in the room at that time....). I dont see it being any better at any other state school, and the risk of uprooting her and it being just as bad will make both our lives hell.
    Thats my biggest concern, me not getting a break. I have an appointment with dsq on wednesday to discuss respite and services but currently school is the only break i get.

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    I couldn't read and run but wanted to say 'good on you mum for considering all the options for your girl'. I don't have children with disabilities or health problems so I can't comment from personal experience but I would imagine if there was consistent respite available and you were able to provide her with socialising opportunities then this would appear a viable option. From what you have said, staying where she is, her academic options are not going to improve. I hope you are supported in whatever you choose. I take my hat off to you and any parent who is in a similar situation.

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    All schools are different, some allocate more funding for SN kids. Our primary school (public) has a SN unit and we didn't have to show IQ scores or anything. Just his ASD diagnosis and a report stating his other issues (speech delay etc). Some of the other kids in the unit are high functioning. We had to apply through the department of education for the spot, and there were only 2 spots this year, sometimes there are none and sometimes there are more. I would definitely look around for a better school. Have you contacted the department of education?

    Failing that, I would consider home schooling. It is awful the way some kids fall through the cracks even though they clearly need the extra help

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    Hi She is currently under the SEU at the main****** school but its not full time SEU (rules have changed) and the school is lacking funding (or at least brains on where to spend it. For example, my daughter is allocated funding for an aide to do her tube feeds every day, yet im still asked to do it twice a week because theres no aide in the room at that time....). I dont see it being any better at any other state school, and the risk of uprooting her and it being just as bad will make both our lives hell.
    Thats my biggest concern, me not getting a break. I have an appointment with dsq on wednesday to discuss respite and services but currently school is the only break i get.

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    Huge hugs, you are doing an amazing job xx

    Being a mumma to such a special little girl is a tough gig. I would also worry about you getting a break if you decided to home school. My nephew was accepted into a Special School, however his parents chose to keep him in main******, it was a really trying time but settled down around grade 6.

    My sil use to spend a lot of time at the school teaching my nephew how to play the school yard games so he could join in.

    It wouldn't hurt to look at the other schools in the area, all schools & their special ed units are different, you may just find a better fit.

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    It's also good to remember that if homeschooling doesn't work, you can look at other options, i.e. re-enrol into the public school system. It's not something you have to commit to for any particular length of time, you can try it out and see if it fits.
    You might find homeschooling less stressful because the schedule is so much more flexible, you can cater to your daughter's needs etc. I hope DSQ can support you in finding respite.


 

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