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    Default interstate guy or local guy . how can i choose

    What questions can help me decide if to date an interstate guy who i really enjoy his company and admire him and am attracted to him on so many levels - as a parent, as a caring person in his career, his wisdom, patience, character traits. But can it go anywhere , will i really leave my family and friends and things that work for me to go live with him. should i continue for some months and then see what i think as i really like him. He has kids so living with him would be complicated for a few years. So is there a future worth waiting for?

    The other guy i'd have to go out with a couple of times to see if i can get more attracted to him. He has some amazing qualities and comonalities, and would be very helpful in my life. I could have a relationship with him immediately and keep my friends and family wthout complications.

    I'm not sure how to decide, or if to continue with the interstate guy for a few months and then decide, or if to meet up with the local guy a couple of times and see if that helps. I dont know what questions to ask,
    do i have to go with the interstate guy as i just really enjoy him. his personality, character, company on so many levels, but would i really leave my family and friends to live with him one day and do i want ot wait while its complicated, do i want to try for a few months and then see,

    or do i go for something less complicated and enjoy the many things that will offer me and the immediate relationship that i can have with him.

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    I dont think you should choose someone based on convenience?

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    How well do you know both of them?

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    Maybe some visits to the interstate one to give it a try? My partner flew down for a week after we met online and we knew instantly it would work between us. Of course it was scary as hell and a huuuuge step for both of us but I'm so glad we did.

    The other guy, well, if you need more dates to see if you can become more attracted to him then I think thats enough said.


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