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    Question Father removed from birth cert.

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    I'm not sure why people are so up in arms over this. My daughters father isn't on her birth cert at all.

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    Maybe because hex wants to be a part of their lives but he's not being allowed that, and now that his name is being removed he will have no rights at all.

    If he wanted to be a donor and nothing more, I wouldn't have a problem with it.

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    ohhh ok i see but my daughter bio dad isn't on her cert at all and he still has to pay child support and whatnot.

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    I would be up in arms as it should be about the child's best interests not the parents. And unless the person is a real deadbeat I think a child has a right to know both sides of their gene pool.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lottiemum View Post
    http://news.ninemsn.com.au/national/...#gigyaComments


    I'm not sure why people are so up in arms over this. My daughters father isn't on her birth cert at all.
    I don't understand why they can't change the birth certificate to reflect all parents. The way it currently stands, it's unfair for the child and for all the parents. The world is changing and the system needs to catch up.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    I would be up in arms as it should be about the child's best interests not the parents. And unless the person is a real deadbeat I think a child has a right to know both sides of their gene pool.
    I agree. My mother's birth certificate doesn't have her real fathers name on it (it has her step dads) and it upsets her still. My BIL doesn't know who his father is at all, and he never will because it's not on his birth certificate. I feel really sorry for him because he desperately wants to know where he came from but his mother has passed away and there's no other way to find out. Everyone has the right to know where they come from (genetically speaking).

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    I'm with vicpark on this one it would be in the child's best interest to have all bio parents listed on the birth certificate

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    There is a difference between a genetic donor and a father. My daughter has myself and DP (same sex couple) on her birth certificate. It means a lot to both of us as if anything were to happen to me DP has all the rights, just like she or any other parent deserves. It would be absurd to think that if something happened to me that our daughter would be taken away from my partner and potentially offered up to the donor just because he donated semen. My daughter is the result of a sperm donor. She will always know that biologically she is not DP's. She will know that she could potentially have biological half-siblings out there and to be careful before she turns 18 and is given the right to know who her donor was.

    DP should be on the birth certificate. A donor is NOT a father or parent. A child deserves to know where they come from genetically speaking, but to know this they do not need to have the donor put on the birth certificate.

    If a woman conceives using an egg donor should the donor be placed on the birth certificate because the child deserves to know? Absolutely not. I believe the mother should explain to their child how they came to be and if it applies who donated when the child is of an appropriate age to understand this information.

    I understand that in this case it may be different as it's really unclear whether they planned on him being a donor and nothing more and they put him in the birth certificate in order to get government benefits (as in the past her partner would not be able to be on the birth certificate) or whether they planned on co-parenting and he intended to be a father not just a donor and the mothers have just changed their minds.

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    I believe that a same sex partnership that parent a child, both parents should be on the birth certificate to ensure security for both parents and the child if something were to happen. However I also agree that a donor egg or sperm should also have a note on the birth certificate to ensure that the child knows their heritage. Whether that's medical or other.

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    A birth certificate should state the facts nothing more.
    Whomever are the childs biological parents are the ones who's names should appear.

    That does not mean they are necessarily the ones raising the child


 

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