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    Default Playgroup help!!

    Hi I have recently joined a playgroup for 20 month old daughter. I though this would be a great step for her and she would be able to meet kids her own ages. I'm just wondering what everyone's experiences are like with playgroups? The structure of this playgroup is great, it has early years coordinators there that are really nice and informative but I seem to be the only parent participating and playing with the kids. The other parents kind of just rock up and ignore their kids for the whole time. This makes it really hard on me when their children misbehave towards my child as the parents don't care really. I want playgroup to be educational and fun for my daughter not a place where she gets picked on and I have to hover the entire time to ensure she is safe. I would love to know if it's normal for the parents to be more concerned about their own socialisation when joining a playgroup or did I just find a bad one lol .. Am I over reacting?? And please if anyone can recommend a great structures playgroup in either browns plains or springfield please please please let me know

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    Maybe the parents see the playgroup as a break for them too which I can understand? I also think that although parents need to stop their kids from bashing other kids... To some extent part of the purpose of playgroup is to help kids socialise... And part of that is to help them deal with relationships and conflict by themselves (with some guidance of course but it may explain why some mothers don't hover).

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    That sounds fairly normal to me. I see playgroup as more of a social occasion for both kids and parents, I don't participate in playing with the kids, I participate in more structured activities like rhyme time but not playgroup. When you say the other kids pick on your DD what do you mean exactly? A bit of argy bargy and snatching I find most parents (including me) won't interfere, but if kids are whacking each other I expect parents to step in.

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    Kind of why I gave up on playgroup to be honest. I accept the " rules" of playgroup but I don't like them. When I went to playgroup with DD2 she was so shy she got pushed around a lot and always had toys taken off her. Once or twice I could live with but not every week week after week.

    The flip side of kids learning to toughen up is kids learning they don't get their own way all the time.

    But yeah OP the way you described it is pretty much the way it often is.

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    Yep, sounds like my experiences.

    It doesn't bother me...as I think that lots of parents go for a break and a chance to chat. My daughter (20 months too) will generally stick with me if she's uncomfortable, so that's fine.

    If a kid were continually hitting another or something, then I'd expect someone to do something. Otherwise...really, it is educational for her. Different situations and experiences are all part of kids learning. If you're not comfortable with it though, maybe you can find some other activities to take her to where the interaction might be different?

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    Maybe try an activity like music class or pcyc's and libraries often have activities for toddlers. That way she is still socialising but the parents are more involved? I have never been to play group mainly for the reasons that you described!

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    Same here. I used to take my dd1 to playgroup at 20 months and let her find her way. I ignored kiddie politics but if it looked like she was going to hit or injure someone I stepped in. Otherwise I looked at playgroup as downtime

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    Yeah I was under the impression that playgroup was for the sake of the children not the parents... And I mean getting picked on as in she was made to bleed by another child trying to throw her to the ground. Ok so maybe if that's how it is maybe playgroup isn't for us lol .... I get it being beneficial for her but I don't think that it's helps if she gets in trouble for being naughty and another child is able to freely be worse without any thing being done except she has to be removed away from said child. She seems to get real upset when kids don't share or they snatch stuff from her and yet she knows she has to use her manners to get anything.

    Thank you anyway guys for the replys and if anyone knows of a playgroup they think is more up out ally please let me know

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    There are massive variations between playgroups as well and sometimes it takes a few goes before you find the right one.

    I only went to one with DD2 as I thought it would help her but it was just wrong for her. She was much happier doing dancing or gym. It was a shame as I really liked the parents but not so much their kids. She wa just too fragile at 2.

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    This is exactly how the first one I went to was- got a bit scary when the boys were trying to pee on each other :/
    We tried a few before I found one I was happy with. I try to be very involved and when craft is set up etc I tell the other children to ask their mummies for help.


 

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