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    Default Scared of getting pregnant again...

    So I'm not quite sure where to post this sorry in advance if here is wrong.
    I just need to have a little vent/chat. I had my daughter 11weeks ago and it was an extremely traumatic experience for both of us. I had an emergency csection, she was premmie with a long stay in SCN and I myself had a wound infection that took 8weeks to heal (just to name a few of the issues we had). Before we decided to have her I was on the combined pill with no problems at all but because I'm a migraine sufferer my ob decided to prescribe me just the mini pill this time. I've been on it a couple of weeks and my husband is very keen for it to be the only contraception now. But all I can think of is all the stories I've heard about it failing and the thought of being pregnant again terrifies the crap out of me. It's to the point where I had to stop my husband last night and I was in tears because all I could think of was the possibility of the mini pill failing and getting pregnant again. Now I do want more kids eventually but I feel that I really need extra time to get over this birth and I'm still trying to get a hang of having a baby now with not much support as our families live away.
    I guess I'd just like to hear other people stories good and bad.

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    Have you looked into longer term contraceptions like the mirena or implanon?

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    I too have a premmie and had a complicated pregnancy. It was not smooth sailing at all!

    You will need time to heal from this experience. I suggest you use condoms in conjunction with the mini pill just to be extra careful.

    My DS is 3 now and I am yet to have the urge to have another baby.

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    I totally understand. I too had a prem. I have the mirena and I also have the same anxiety of it failing. I don't feel like I want any more though. So that adds to my anxiety. I have no advice but I can sympathize. I also found it interesting that there seem to be a few premmie mums who feel/felt the same.

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    I completely understand where you're coming from, big hugs

    I had an emergency CS under GA at 25 weeks due to placental abruption and my DD spent 3.5 months in NICU/SCN. When she was first born I thought I'd never have any more kids and that I could never put us through that again.

    The initial contraception we used was just abstinence!! It was months.. As PP said use condoms in conjunction with the pill to be safe, but time will heal the trauma to some extent, and 2 years later we are pregnant with number 2 and the excitement is finally outweighing the nerves

    Good luck x

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    Quote Originally Posted by GM01 View Post
    I completely understand where you're coming from, big hugs

    I had an emergency CS under GA at 25 weeks due to placental abruption and my DD spent 3.5 months in NICU/SCN. When she was first born I thought I'd never have any more kids and that I could never put us through that again.

    The initial contraception we used was just abstinence!! It was months.. As PP said use condoms in conjunction with the pill to be safe, but time will heal the trauma to some extent, and 2 years later we are pregnant with number 2 and the excitement is finally outweighing the nerves

    Good luck x
    My gosh that's terrible I feel bad now my DD was only 6weeks early but it was still a hard experience for us you must be one strong woman!!! I went to see my ob for a normal appt and he just goes "You're not going home we are having this baby now" I was sent straight to L&D and rushed to surgery.
    I think the main thing I keep refering back to is I knew this girl who had a baby in janurary one year she was BFing and on the mini pill and had another baby in december the same year. I told my husband that I'm scared but he seems to think it's worth the risk ha typical male lol
    I don't want something as long term as the merina or implanon.

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    Totally off topic. The op apperantly posted this thread in 1970.

    Sorry. Carry on.

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    Are your periods regular? If so you could use an app like period-plus to monitor your fertile window then just use condoms or withdrawal for those few days. I did this for a year with no other contraception and didn't get pregnant but my periods were reliable so that helped.


 

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