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    I've been off work for the last couple of years and I'm now applying for jobs and starting the interview process. But it has me so stressed I feel ill and I've already cancelled one interview as it just felt like too much. I have no idea what's going on as I'm ordinarily a confident person and have good experience plus I'm no stranger to interviews as I've done a fair bit of contract work in my time. But I am struggling so much and just feel not ready. I've always been someone who is happy to step out of my comfort zone but now all I want to do is stay in my safety zone. I had one interview the other day that was terrible I was so un-confident. I went home and cried!

    What at is going on? Has anyone else experienced this? It's new to me and I feel sick just thinking about it. It all seems too hard.

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    I suffered this anxiety recently, and I put a big giant cross through my plans to go back. For me, needing to provide a sibling for DD (I am an only girl in my family, not close to my 2 brothers) was paramount. Is there something other than confidence holding you back? Anxiety is normal, and stressful interviews/ nerves are normal, but from my experience (and I love working), I needed to listen to my gut.

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    I really don't know. On Monday I have an interview where I'll be interviewed by 3 people at once and will go for about an hour. It just feels all too much. My work is quite involved and stressful and I'm worried I won't cope with it. Thanks Nomia

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    Do you already have a lot on? Do you also have underlying concerns about how you'll juggle work plus everything you do already? These sorts of worries could be manifesting into a type of self-sabotage that will mean you won't go back to work yet.

    I've just moved interstate and I will eventually need to start working again. I'd started casual work already before I moved so no concerns about how the baby will cope etc. It's nerve wracking because all my education and experience was within another state's system (teacher). I know it will be intense once I start working so I'm allowing myself lots of time to get my newly changed life in order, otherwise I know I'll be a mess and that it will come across in interviews.

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    Yes I guess I have had a lot on. Well not so much a lot on but a lot has changed since I last worked and I've been through a fair bit. Also logistically it will be tough as I will be commuting over an hour each way and have to organise extra daycare for my little one who is 3. It will be a big change going back to work.

    Thanks for the advice.

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    Good luck with the interview on Monday. Panel interviews are hell at the best of times!

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    Good luck

    Maybe if you do some practice interview techniques. Write down some questions that you are normally asked (such as 'why do you want this job? What skills do you have in this area? When did you last work in this? (to explain your absense and how you will get back into the groove etc). Sit down at the table, and answer them out loud, as if you are in the interview.




 

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