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    Careful ladies you have to report not question. I learned that on this thread once before. Lots of things don't add up and never have.

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    It is me. I am writing with tears ********* down my face and on my phone, when I normally wrote on my laptop.
    I had no touched him in such a long time before the pregnancy or during it. I didn't disclose it as it wasn't a problem at that point in time, it began to be a program when I began being hit with panic attacks that I addressed with my counsellor.

    I am not disputing my actions were disgusting, they are and I am extremely horrified in my actions. He meant the world to me and I caused him to walk away.

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    Sounds like its all for the best then and continue your counselling

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    I've been following this from the get go and something still seems really off.
    Brimm, if this is you, I'm sorry that you feel terrible, but counselling seems like the best option at the moment, good luck 😌😌😌


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    Quote Originally Posted by brimm View Post
    I had no touched him in such a long time before the pregnancy or during it. I didn't disclose it as it wasn't a problem at that point in time, it began to be a program when I began being hit with panic attacks that I addressed with my counsellor.
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    7 months (or is it 2?) is still pretty recent when you are talking about abuse.

    You really didn't think your prior abuse of your husband was a problem at that point? Really? It didn't cross your mind that he was treating you like $hit because you treated him like $hit? Come on. Take responsibility and/or start telling the truth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    7 months (or is it 2?) is still pretty recent when you are talking about abuse.

    You really didn't think your prior abuse of your husband was a problem at that point? Really? It didn't cross your mind that he was treating you like $hit because you treated him like $hit? Come on. Take responsibility and/or start telling the truth.
    Agree.

    Sorry to be harsh Brimm, but if the roles were reversed and he was hitting you absolutely everyone would tell you to leave him.

    So as much as I had sympathy for you before, I have sympathy for him now.

    Perhaps he didn't want the baby because he thought bringing a new life into an abusive relationship was the wrong thing to do. But really who knows, coz I'm very skeptical about everything you've written now.

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    I think either way, no matter what, it seems as though brimm isn't a well person. Maybe we should all just leave it - I think the points have been made.
    @brimm, it's difficult to fit all the parts of your story into one cohesive narrative that makes sense. However much of it is true or untrue, you are in a bad situation right now. Counselling is a great start, but you need to be doing it to better yourself, and not for your marriage, I fear. Good luck.

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    I have to agree, abuse, whether it be the male or female doing it, is never ok. I hope you continue with your counselling and that your husband gets some counselling too, the baggage from an abusive relationship is not something that is easy to get over, especially when it comes to future relationships.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vicpark View Post
    i don't know what to say... Come on...you went into extensive detail about your private life, hubby and marriage problems and left out the bit where you abuse your husband?. That's not how you peel an onion. I feel you have in a way wasted people's time as advice they have offered in this thread could be way off the mark since they were only given half the story.

    I hope you continue with the counselling. Good luck.
    this!!!!

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    Also, I've read everything from beginning to end and not to sound harsh but a lot of things don't add up.. You're a teacher.. but don't seem to be all that well educated in a lot if common areas of knowledge? I hope that you weren't just posting for the hell of it/attention because you've had a lot of support from here and had a lot of women pour their hearts and souls out to help you. You often jump from one personality to another and if this is really, fully you I hope you get some help. Time to move on, there is no excuse for the behaviour that you or your ex dh showed towards each other.

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