Hi Brimm first of all sorry for your loss. I would also like to say I really admire how strong you have been through all this. My first miscarriage I was a wreck and could not have gotten through it without the support of my husband and family and when we were dealt with the blow of miscarrying again 2.5 months later I shut down and would not have gotten out of bed some days with out the support I had. You have handled this whole thing with grace and have shown how wonderfully strong you are. The thing with miscarriages is that without realising it they can change relationships they can make your feelings for your partner stronger and they can break relationships. I remember a few posts back you said you would stay and work through things with your husband but I just want to say if you find that your relationship is one of the ones that change for the worse please remember how incredibly strong you have been through all this and how you are getting through it alone and if you choose to end your marriage don't be scared because you have not only lost your mother but now a child and you haven't broken like many of us would have.
I am sorry if this has come out wrong and I truly hope counselling works for you and your husband I just wanted to point out that if it doesn't you will be fine and succeed on your own.
I'm so sorry for you loss, I hope that in time you get the space and support you need and deserve to heal.
Is your husband actually serious?
Like... Is he honestly comparing the loss of a child, your child, to a cold?
I just can't even wrap my head around it
My fingertips are speechless, I can't even... Just...
I don't even know what I can say to help, just please take care of yourself.
So many people have posted here telling you to reassess your relationship, please take that advise on board when you feel you can.
In the meantime, shut down when he speaks.
You don't deserve the buckets of sh!t he is dumping on you when he opens his mouth, please don't believe the crap he spews.
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This whole thing baffles me.
So sorry about your loss @brimm - take care & be kind to yourself.
Words don't describe how badly your husband has reacted to this - and you are supposed to feel sorry for him having a cold??!! He should be begging your forgiveness & I hope he wakes up to this.
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I would have walked out on this comment. So heartless
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