My first scan at approx 5-6 weeks showed same as your scan. No fetal pole no hb. My hcg was sky high and I had to have follow up scan a week later. That week waiting sucked badly.
But here I am counting my blessings with that slow grower my 1 week old baby boy.
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The best thing you can do right now is get bloods done on Monday, then Wed or thurs. The 2 tests will not just show levels but how much the HcG is increasing.
It was clear from your first post you wanted this baby, but reading on at you worrying shows you def want it - if this is a viable pg, keep this baby.
My first scan showed nothing. A scan a few days later showed a sac (internal u/s required to see it) measuring 4w3days. A scan a week later showed sac, pole and - to the tech's surprise - a heartbeat, all measuring 5w4days. She's a 6 year old now.
I've also had a missed miscarriage and a miscarriage that always had slow growth, slow rising hcg and bleeding. I checked so many times and they always refer to the 'weeks' based on an average LMP, not on conception.
I would only wait one week and get 2 hcg tests in the meantime to check if levels are rising.
Op I don't mean to sound rude as that's not my intention but for someone with a double degree and obviously very intelligent you seem to know absolutely nothing about babies or what Australia provides to parents. Paid parental leave was all over the news when it was introduced and everywhere again recently when Abbott wanted to raise the amount to up to $50,000 for 6 months.
Knowledge is power!!! Do some research! Find out exactly what you guys would be entitled to from Centrelink and the conditions.
I'm not saying this from a purely financial perspective but also to defend your position with your husband. E.g. He says "we can't afford it". You say "well actually, I've done a budget and we will receive this much money and here are my sums".
Also get yourself some legal advice about these investment properties and just get rid of them.
I seriously don't understand what is going on here.
You must he going out of your mind with worry but seriously , there are some elements of this you CAN control. Educate yourself, write down questions to ask your Dr. Get all the answers you want from a PROFESSIONAL and not your husband don't sit back.
Get back control by being the one in your relationship who has the answers
The properties are all sorted in a sense, just up for sale etc. We do have lawyers working on the case but I think until there gone completely we will always have that worry there.
Brimm, from a financial perspective, if you are a permanent teacher in a public school, and have been since the beginning of the year, you should be entitled to maternity leave. Not sure which state you're in, but in Queensland it's 14 weeks at your usual salary, which you can also take at half pay (28 weeks). Again, not sure if this is the same across the country, but we also get paid our full rate for school holidays, which get added to our leave (as we are entitled to them as a condition of employment). I am a teacher as well, and go on mat leave next week. Between maternity leave, some long service leave, and the paid parental leave, I'll have 13 months off, half at half pay, the other half at full pay. Do your sums if finances are really what's holding you back.
From an emotional perspective, our son is the biggest blessing in our lives. I suffered a severe and very unexpected mental illness soon after he was born, and he was my biggest comfort. Being a parent is not easy, but sometimes, when you feel so broken with pain and grief, that little person is proof that there is good in your world, and you get to hold it in your arms. No investment property or BMW will ever make you that happy.
Parenting isn't easy, and it will definitely test your relationship. I am so incredibly grateful that my husband is not only a fun, patient and kind parent, but also an incredibly supportive husband who has always had my well being at heart. A lesser man would have walked away when things got hard, but he has held my hand every step of the way.
I'm not sure if my story will help, but I just hope that whatever choice you make, you put your, and your baby's best interests first. Babies don't need much, and you'll be amazed at just how quickly you get back on your feet financially if you commit to a budget and some wise spending. All the best xxx
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