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    Either way OP you sound like you'll be an amazing mum and that's more than enough

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    Children don't need ponies and private school. They need food, shelter and loving parents that support them to reach for their dreams. I think you and your husband are wrapped up in money, and wealth being the answer to happiness. It's not.

    You say he'll be a loving caring father... are you sure? From what you've written he's great..... when he's getting his own way It sounds like the moment you stop doing what he wants you to, and want something he doesn't, he becomes abusive. He sounds very immature to me. What happens in 2 years if you terminate? I'm going to take an educated guess there will be another excuse that you guys aren't financially 'ready'. I know someone in an almost identical situation to you. He continued to shift back ttc over 3 years beyond the agreement, for her to find out he never wanted kids and just told her that to keep her there.

    You are putting your eggs all in one basket here OP.

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    Brimm: good luck for 1.30.

    I hope seeing your babies heartbeat makes it a bit more real for your husband and he can be more understanding of the situation.

    Of course the termination clinic would say "not far along".... they don't want you to feel attached to it

    No one ever regrets not having an abortion. Many people regret having an abortion......... Do you ever hear a (normal - sane) mother say she wishes she had an abortion?

    I am very pro choice but you are SO painfully obvious that you want to keep this bub.
    Stop worrying about the details and stand up for your choice. Like I said earlier. Be a mother, start now. Stand up for your childs right to a chance of life if its so clearly what you want.

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    Brimm, check out the Department of Human Service's website. There will be information there about Paid Parental Leave. Basically it's 18 weeks at minimum wage, and you're eligible for it if you have worked 10 of the 13 months prior to the birth of your baby. There is more information there about eligibility.

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    Brimm, your in such a tough situation and the only person who can decide what happens in your future is you, so I want to wish you good luck today at your scan and I hope you have a clearer answer as to what your future plans are xx

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    Good luck for your scan today Brimm x

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    Good luck at your scan today.

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    There is a big difference between being a bad father to a living breathing child than wanting an abortion maybe in his mind this is him trying to be a good father.

    Also credit where credit is due he is going to the appointment with OP - he could be sitting in his anger and refuse o do anything to do with the baby besides abortion but he is not.

    This doesn't excuse his behaviour in ANY way and im sure it willtake a while for you both to recover fron the past weeks but stress can really change a persons personality and it sounds like he may be drowning in it. Maybe he may need some outside help?

    OP good luck today. Maybe your hubby seeing the heart beat will bring him around to the idea a bit more...

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    Just finished with the ultrasound! Very unclimatic. Found out I'm 4 weeks 2 days with an expected due date of the 4th of Feb. But apparently due to how early it is due date could easily change. Pretty much all there was on the ultrasound was a sac and water which made my husband go "see, nothing really there!"

    The ultrasound person said they wouldn't have been able to do the abortion on Monday anyways as it wouldn't have dropped to be able to operate on.

    I am feeling very crampy now.

    I'm trying to work out how it can be 4 weeks.. If that's since my last period or how old it is.

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    I am very confused though as my last menstrual cycle was 7 weeks ago!


 

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