I have an almost three year old son who perhaps can say 50-100 words. He knows all his letters and numbers to 20 or even higher. He knows all his letter sounds. He can attempt to say all his animals and animal sounds. He knows all his shapes- he loves shapes! He can tell the difference between an octagon and a pentagon, for example.
If I point to pictures - he will tell me what those pictures are. He seems to understand most everything I say... BUT.....He does not really speak anything in the way of back and forth conversation unless I am pointing at a picture. If I ask him if he wants toast- he will take forever to nod yes (if I'm lucky) and he'll fetch his drink bottle or bowl if I ask. He will wave hi or bye or give someone a kiss, when asked... always only when asked. He sometimes points to objects he wants. He does not line up toys.
He knows so many words and has *some* interaction so people tell me not to worry. He does not run on his tippy toes or spin circles but he does flap his hands, especially when tired or bored. I have not had him evaluated yet - we are on a waiting list and I will not get to the testing stage for another few months. He does go to a speech therapist who is helping him learn signs. He can sign 'more' but it's a variation of the proper sign. I do wonder about Autism. He often comes and takes my hand to lead me to what he wants. If I ask him to point to what he wants, he will do it.
He is extremely affectionate, cuddly, and when he gives me a kiss, he says Mwah! When he falls down - he seeks me out for a hug and comfort. He does pretend play with a phone sometimes but mostly doesn't play with his toys except to throw them in the air or collect them in a huge, messy pile. He is gentle and careful most of the time, but does love jumping off his bed into a pile of pillows that he has collected from all over the house. He loves books and is a wiz on the computer and tablet. He is extremely obedient and listens and minds me at all times, and looks at Mommy & Daddy when we call his name. He attempts to say all types of words but when we ask him to say our names (Mom or Dad) he seems to not hear us and won't try. He will say his sister's name, Maddie; if we say Mad- he'll finish with -EE!
His eye contact isn't constant, but he does frequently make eye-contact. He loves parks and playgrounds and riding his bike, though isn't really interested in the other kids. He's very athletic, kicks a ball (but not back and forth with us), and has good coordination. He loves going places with us and likes us to play with him on the playground equipment, count for him when he goes down the slide, etc. He smiles at us a lot, especially in an outdoor environment and on hikes. He loves the outdoors and going for walks. He could care less about routine. I am so confused! He gives us hope, yet I know many of these things are red flags.
I would love to hear from others with similar experiences. He is a good boy and we love him very much. Thank you.