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    Quote Originally Posted by Purple Lily View Post
    I have two boys aged 2.5 and 10 months, I'm also 28 weeks pregnant. I am constantly being asked if ds1 is in child care...Im seriously being asked a few times a week. He is lacking in speech and the first question I am asked by family, friends and professionals when they learn of his delay is does he go to child care? It makes me feel like I have done something wrong by keeping him home with me. I already blame myself enough Anyway we looked into child care for him to see if it would help but when it came down to it I wasn't ready to send him. I don't need to work so if I'm not ready then there's no reason to send him unless something happens like I need a break or need to work. I think It's great for mums who work or mums who need the break (that will probably be me in a few months lol!). But I really am sick of the judgemental looks I get about him not being in day care.
    Stuff em and their judgements hun! You're doing an amazing job, its not you're fault ar all, that would be like me saying D's SPD is my fault. I know its hard but please dont blame yourself, you are a doing a wonderful job xo

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    That's rough.

    I don't understand why people care so much what other people do with their kids.
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    Stuff em and their judgements hun! You're doing an amazing job, its not you're fault ar all, that would be like me saying D's SPD is my fault. I know its hard but please dont blame yourself, you are a doing a wonderful job xo

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    Thanks for the kind words xoxo I know I shouldn't blame myself, It's one of the biggest things I hate about myself.

    The worst thing is mil is the biggest problem. Since he was a baby she has constantly asked me about putting him in day care. So when she found out about his speech issues she again asked. She also asked if I ever leave the house and take him to play groups. I told her we take him to a play group aimed at children with speech difficulties and that he was on the public wait list for a speechy. Her response was well he obviously needs something and that's not enough. Well sorry but we had to re-do our budget and figure what we can sacrifice so we can see a private speechy. So yes now he is seeing a speech therapist but what before that we weren't doing enough? I don't know why so many people think that child care is a fix it for everything. It's great yeah but it doesn't always fix everything like everybody around me seems to think!

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    I have never used child care for either of my babies and I have been verbally abused by a relative for it.
    I have been told I need time for myself, dd's need to socialise, they need to go to get sick and build up immunities etc...
    Growing up I never went to child care and I survived and am a confident adult who enjoys social interaction without any problems.
    I have enrolled dd1 in dance classes at 2.5 years for 45min a week also this year she is in a 3+ kindy for 2 1/4 hrs a week. Dd2 has recently started the same dance class.
    I try and engage them 1 on 1 to help with learning and feel I am doing a good job.
    I do believe each family and child has different circumstances and am defiantly not anti daycare at all, we are in a situation where I can stay at home.

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    I had to go back to work, so enrolled DS in childcare at 14 months. I initially wanted him to stay at home until he was at least 2. For me, it's been the best thing I could have done - he sleeps better, has become far more social and less anxious, has a place to explore and learn, and has a huge outside area to explore, which he doesn't have at home. As he is an only child with just me for company, I wanted him to experience being around others. I am finding it's bringing out lovely aspects of his personality that I hadn't seen, like he always comforts others in the under 2s who are crying (particularly the girls, hmmm), and loves to share toys with other kids. However, I look at childcare as being able to deliver the things I simply haven't been aware enough/a good enough mum to provide, and it keeps me able to maintain positive experiences with DS as I was really struggling last year.

    I certainly wouldn't judge parents that don't send their children to childcare, although I do agree that from 3 it can be a positive experience. I can tell the kids that start at our school that haven't been to any form of childcare, as well. But at 11 months, OP, I'd be telling everyone where to stick their unsought opinions!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Purple Lily View Post
    Thanks for the kind words xoxo I know I shouldn't blame myself, It's one of the biggest things I hate about myself.

    The worst thing is mil is the biggest problem. Since he was a baby she has constantly asked me about putting him in day care. So when she found out about his speech issues she again asked. She also asked if I ever leave the house and take him to play groups. I told her we take him to a play group aimed at children with speech difficulties and that he was on the public wait list for a speechy. Her response was well he obviously needs something and that's not enough. Well sorry but we had to re-do our budget and figure what we can sacrifice so we can see a private speechy. So yes now he is seeing a speech therapist but what before that we weren't doing enough? I don't know why so many people think that child care is a fix it for everything. It's great yeah but it doesn't always fix everything like everybody around me seems to think!
    When I read things like this I'm so glad we don't live near our relatives. Not all family are like this but mine has a tendency towards the "should" guilt and it's hard.

    Will he go to 3 yo kindy or preschool? It might be worth considering. I only suggest it as DS had speech delay and then developed a stutter and going to preschool (3 yo) seemed to fix his stutter. It might have been a coincidence but it did seem to really help.

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    All my little ones stay at home with me until they are 3 then they go to kindy 2 days per week. At 4 they move up to pre prep which is 3 days per week.

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    I think as long as you expose them to other people and experiences then children have no need for cc. I know I get really bored when I'm on mat leave so I make a conscious effort to go to out local tiny town a couple of times a week just to get out of the house. The kids learn to interact with strangers so really isn't this just the same as the socialisation they 'have' to learn at cc.

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    I didn't. DS started pre school at 4 years old. He was already a social child even before pre school. I've noticed that since going he plays so much better with other children, he was very bossy prior to that!

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    I don't use it nor do I intend to use it. Dd has a weakened immune system and there are so many bugs in day care. We do enough out in the community for her to get her social interaction. Eg swimming lessons, play dates with other friends kids and the like.

    She will be my one and only child so I won't be going back to work until she's in school and even then I will only go back part time. When she needs day care, my mother is quite happy to step in and she also makes sure DD gets plenty of interaction with others. DD is a very social butterfly
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    I definitely think children from 3.5yrs should go to some type of childcare. Yes for socialization but also for educational side of things. It makes it a lot easier if they know their numbers to at least 20 and all abc and at least look at know how to write their name by the time thru go to primary school.
    Being that I've worked in childcare and also as a teacher aide, you can tell who went to childcare and who didn't. Of course occasions get a child or two who are delayed for other reasons but that's an exception. It definitely helps the child adjust a lot better to going to school and sit to listen to a teacher as well as follow rules and directions.

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