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    Default Does anyone not use child care?

    Let me start by saying....I'm absolutely NOT anti-childcare. But I am able to stay home with my twins and don't need to use it. I don't know if this is just my perception, but I feel as though I'm getting a lot of comments about how important it is to put the girls in childcare a bit even if I'm home so that they can socialise, learn different skills etc.

    I'm starting to wonder if just keeping them home is a bad thing? We do live on a farm and there aren't a lot of baby groups etc in our area (but I attend what is available with them). So they don't have heaps of contact with other kids. Am I doing them a disservice?

    I really don't want to create a pro or anti argument, I'm just concerned at the way keeping them home now seems a bit frowned upon. What do others think? How many people are not using child care? Do you feel your children are missing out on important learning?

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    How old are they?

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    I can only go by my personal experience... but not using childcare has not impacted negatively on my three year old's social interactions. Like you, we live on a farm, though there is a fair bit going on locally for young kids and she attends playgroup weekly, plus storytime at the library. So, not every day, but seeing other kids approximately twice a week. She's friendly, outgoing, enjoys the company of people, communicates well, interacts well with her baby sister.

    I aim to do something "new" with her every day, even if it's only for half an hour to an hour. So a new item of craft, or explore something new outside. Recently we've been exploring the alphabet and letters and she's loving it.

    I don't think it's a one size fits all thing. If you feel the environment you provide at home is stimulating and enjoyable (most of the time... we all have tv & pyjama days!), and your little one/s are happy and thriving, then there's no need for outside care in my opinion.

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    I didn't. They went to pre-school from 3. My third we didn't do baby groups, or group activities, and he is soooo social. He is 4 and gets invited to a party almost every week. We walk through our local park and kids of all ages call out his name. He is Mr. Popular, he hasn't been disadvantaged in any way.

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    I used to have your POV.

    My kids have been in 3 and now 4 days a week for a year now (3 and 4), they love it and socially they have blossomed.

    If I didn't work, I'd have them in 8.30-3.00 and have a day, or two where I'd go in and help. But they get dropped off 7am, collected around 6pm, which is way too long IMO, but they love it so much and I love seeing the diversity in learning that their teachers bring.

    It's a good foundation for school.

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    Socialization of children via playgroup, childcare, gymbaroo, library time etc is very important from 3yo. Till then it's not that important.

    If you are happy to provide a rich and varied home life then time with a primary caregiver is wonderful

    wifey of hubby who is always away. mother of two girls who are always amusing.

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    Sorry, should've mentioned, they're 11 months now, but I'm thinking of next year onwards and what is best.

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    My dds have never been to childcare. Some people have really pushed it as being important for their development or because they believe I need a break. I believe each to their own.

    I think it'd be a waste of money on one hand as well as taking the place away from someone who's working or studying and really needs the place. Plus I like their company. But that's just what I think, you do what's right for you.

    Dd1 is at kinder now, you'd never be able to pick her from a child who has been in childcare.

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    I recently read an article that said how children don't 'need' the social aspect of childcare until around the age of 3. If I can find it I'll link it. It talked about how they don't need the sharing/ developing friendships and how not starting something like kindy has no bearing on their future socializing etc.
    I was interested in it as I send my dd to childcare hoping to get some work. And her therapists were the ones who said they thought it would be 'good' for her.
    So while I agree that it will be 'good' for her I don't think it's vital to her development.
    I think as long as you play and read stories with your kids. .trips to the park and maybe a playgroup or storytime at the library you're giving them what they need.

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    I never did with my 3, the two eldest were absolutely fine, never missed a beat, but i think it *may* have been beneficial for my youngest, as he has had a HARD transition into school never really having been away from me before.

    That being said, he's pretty fine now, loves school, but he was quite terrified about it to begin with, but he has been dx with anxiety, so that did exascerbate the transition of course!

    I really depends on the child I think.

    I don't think childcare is 'good' or 'bad' it is a legit option which many parents take up for various reasons, and i'm sure they see first hand that it either suits their child, or it doesn't and really that's the thing, we are all individuals who react in different ways to things, you just have to be sensible with your decisions, and take each situation as it comes, figure out if there is a problem, try some options, see if they help or hinder, and keep at it until things are 'right'

    I really think you cannot generalise about childcare when you are looking at the particular, ie your own children.


 

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