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    Default Giving up Facebook.....it's been two weeks...feeling depressed...

    I have been on Facebook for many years. A few months ago I started to feel as though I was just going through the motions everyday...liking things I didn't like, commenting on posts that made me angry, getting into debates with others and generally feeling as though no one really cared. I decided to leave Facebook. The first few days I felt a "freeing" but now I feel depressed. I don't want to go back. I seriously want to give it up. I am finding I am getting more done in my life and spending more time with my own family in conversations. Family(siblings,nieces,nephews SIL ) connection on Facebook is poor in real life and was almost non-existant on facebook. Will these feelings of depression pass? I truly don't want to go back. Can anyone else relate?

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    I was on Facebook for 5 years, probably 3 really involved and I gave it up for similar reasons last August.
    I felt like it had taken over my life and I didn't even know why.
    I don't get out much being a sahm and we moved to a different town 2 years ago and I've found it hard to make friends so I thought it was my way of socialising but all it did was make me feel trapped.
    I can't say I got sad about leaving. I haven't had one moment that I wanted to go back on. I missed snooping on old friends to be honest lol but nothing else.
    I replaced it with Instagram which I left February this year for the same reasons. I seem to get addicted to social media. I do have to watch out I don't do the same here, as I've only been coming here since the start of the year.
    Hopefully the bad feelings will pass for you so you won't go back.
    My life is so much less drama without it because I would always be whinging about others to my mother, what they said on Facebook or what they posted on Instagram. I found it just made me an awful person.
    and out of the 166 friends I had on there, I struggle to stay in touch with about 7 and really only have 3 that I met through Facebook.
    It can be so fake.

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    Ooh I deactivated a few days ago.

    Spent far too much time on it and over it all

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    I think it drives a perception based reality instead of enjoying your life. For me, I started feeling the need to keep with the Jones' instead of being true to myself. My DP said, it's just a highlights reel, not real life and I think it's very true.

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    I was feeling the same but felt I couldn't officially leave as it was useful for keepin in touch with certain people. Instead I did a major friend cull and cut it down to about 50 people. I then set it so that the people who I wanted to stay in touch with, but were annoying me for some reason at that point in time, I set it so their posts didn't appear in my news feed. Since then FB has been a joy. I don't log on that much but when I do it doesn't make me angry or annoyed, just happy to see what my mates have been doing

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nomia View Post
    I think it drives a perception based reality instead of enjoying your life. For me, I started feeling the need to keep with the Jones' instead of being true to myself. My DP said, it's just a highlights reel, not real life and I think it's very true.
    It's so true. I would catch up with friends and realise their lives were nothing like they portrayed them on Facebook. I gave it up a few months ago and am not missing anything. I see my friends and hear people's news directly now and although I never used to post personal stuff I enjoy that no-one knows what's going on in my life and if they care they can call me! I don't do Amy other social media, bubhub is the only thing I do online besides uni.

    Its strange but even though I knew and saw more about people on Facebook, I feel more connected and in touch now that I'm off it... Not sure how that works but it does!

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    I was just saying to DH today that I don't miss fb at all, ok it's only been a few days but still.

    We used to spend so much time checking stuff and most of the stuff I just utter garbage time wasting crap.

    I have lots of friends and family overseas who is like to keep in contact with but its not like I ever messaged them through fb anyway! I did get to see their photos etc though, but besides that I am so sick of seeing people airing their dirty laundry and debates etc. can't be bothered

    I also miss my quality time with DH as we got to the point where we didn't even talk to each other properly as we were stating at out phones. Not good for a marriage at all!

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    I know this is a bit of an old thread now, but just wanted to check in and see how everyone is doing without Facebook?

    I just deactivated mine a couple of days ago, for most of the same reasons listed above - spending too much time on it, feeling like I needed to keep up with the Jones', and feeling like my life was inadequate compared to the highlights reel from friends.

    Doing ok so far, getting more done around the house and interacting more meaningfully with DS & DH...but keep feeling like I'm forgetting something! I have to keep resisting the urge to pick up my phone! Hope this gets easier.... :/



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    I haven't logged back on and I'm not missing it at all yay!!

    It's been almost 3 weeks

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