After the fiasco of Cycle 3 in which he gave me no decent reasons for why so many of my eggs were immature (once again, I had to research the possible reasons), he then told me "No" when I proposed certain supplements (like Melatonin/DHEA) and drugs (like Saizen) and drug protocols (like using Menopur) that I wanted to try in the hope of increasing my egg quality, so I went to a FS who said "Yes" and not only did he say "Yes", he also believed in these drugs/supplements and used them routinely in his drug protocols plus he had quite a few idea's of his own on how best to maximise my egg quality, DP's sperm quality in conjunction with getting my oven in the best shape possible for transfer/implantation
Oh yes, she's a mover and shaker allright!! She's been making her presence known since I was around 15wks+4 days and her movements have increased more and more as the weeks have gone by and she's gotten bigger and stronger She woke me up the other morning at 2am kicking up a storm (I think it was because I was lying on my right side which is the side she favours and always has done and she didn't like it, was probably squashing her or something??) She's pretty much in a routine now of when she's awake and when she's asleep/resting but it's all hours of the day and night
Research away Luv, ask plenty of questions and don't be afraid to challenge your FS either, that's what I've learned anyhoo
Last edited by BlondeinBrisvegas; 24-05-2014 at 16:04.
Although my original FS was a lovely, lovely man, at the end of the day he was just too conservative for me and in our situation, I needed someone who was modern and progressive in their approach and not afraid to take risks etc as DP and I were pushing sh*t uphill from the get go as it was (my age in combination with DP's TESA'd sperm which is not as mature as ejaculated sperm).
Yes, she's our first and she'll be our last too After all we've been through physically, emotionally, spiritually and financially there's no way we could go through it all again plus the thought of being even older than we are now and having another (and we would be considerably older by the time we'd be ready to try again) is not appealing either plus by then my eggs would in all likelihood be completely crap and my ovaries would be tired thus producing bugger all follicles for EPU in which case, I wouldn't even bother going ahead.
No, one precious baby is more than enough for us and for my sanity too!! We'll quit while we're ahead and just be thankful that we got her against all the odds
I think the difference is that with two children born singly you may not realise just how capable one is when the next is born. Even if they are close together in age, one would be at least sitting for example. I never knew how much just their ability to sit would change my life with twins! When it comes to cuddles, reading a story together, playing on a swing, many different things! The inability to cuddle two can feel quite sad when they are floppy little newborns. Or having to work on a schedule that works for two, not being able to completely follow the needs of one tiny baby because you can't hold two to sleep when they are just first starting out life and need lots of knowing you're there. Or feed both on demand, as much as you'd dearly love to. Bathtime, outings, the list goes on. Lots of things are divided attention but also catering to the juggle of two needing the same thing.
I completely agree that having two children apart is very similar in many ways and I strongly believe twins has its benefits in many ways that make life easier too at times (eg: my twins are on the same foods, so I'm preparing the same meal for two rather than catering for two different feeding stages). I adore having twins and for all the stories I've heard from others, have genuinely not found it very hard. However the reality is, that the juggling in the early days can be quite heartbreaking. Having said that, they have the benefit of constantly having one another and, in my view, this makes up for it in a different way.
I never say having twins is harder, it's just different challenges. I can recognise the differences and appreciate the ones I don't have by having different aged children too. I'm glad you wanted to understand. Once again....I'm only butting in here and it's only my view but I hope that helps
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