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    I think SA Girl's point was that actually posting about a specific incident you had with someone, and then there are pages and pages of support for you and insults towards her (albeit nobody "knows" her) is a bit.... Wrong.

    It's very common on here, and I have often posted saying I think it's off, and now usually don't bother as it's just part of BH.

    Imagine that woman was a member here and saw that? Imagine you knew there were pages on a forum about your friend/daughter/mother/whoever? Not nice.

    And agree that you don't know what that person has experienced that day. Sometimes instead of getting angry and worked up about something, try smiling at them, asking if they're ok. If they are genuinely just nasty it will disarm and confuse them. And if they're having a bad day I am sure they will appreciate it and karma will repay you. Win win.

    My friend was absent minded and bumped into someone once. The feral woman hurled abuse at her. My friends mum had died the day before.

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    @SAgirl but judging situations when you weren't there is precisely what a forum like BH is all about.

    I agree in part with what you're saying and it is possible to comment on a topic by judging the situation and not the person but given most people on here are time poor (and this is a very judgmental place) it's not going to happen.

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    @kw123 I think TamTam was very nice to her. And the eg you give of your friend proves why a little bit of kindness is always appropriate in every interaction when you're out in public.

    Geez OP I'm sorry this went this way. So many people post experiences on here where it's not clear who was in the wrong or right but you clearly did nothing wrong.

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    I don't think TamTam was rude at all - I was referring to the things other posters had said they would do/say in that situation.

    And I still think threads like this are inappropriate (but that's a general thing not directed at TamTam in particular).

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    You see I look at BH as the same as what we do with our girlfriends when catching up for coffee. If I'm meeting up with a friend I might say..gosh you wouldn't believe what happened to me yesterday? Then there'd be the usual responses. On BH there are way more people to respond and so it seems bigger than it was. That's all it was. A simple 'you won't believe what happened' conversation I might have with my friends over coffee.

    It's a shame is taken a downward turn. Though I must admit that if the mum does read this she would just take my OP and think Oh yeah. .. I was a bit snarky and come in and say that was me!! I certainly wouldn't tear shreds off her. In fact I haven't called her names. I just said she was rude.
    Much like a similar thread last night about stealing parking spaces. That was rude too!

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    Quote Originally Posted by kw123 View Post
    I don't think TamTam was rude at all - I was referring to the things other posters had said they would do/say in that situation.


    I agree.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    You see I look at BH as the same as what we do with our girlfriends when catching up for coffee. If I'm meeting up with a friend I might say..gosh you wouldn't believe what happened to me yesterday? Then there'd be the usual responses. On BH there are way more people to respond and so it seems bigger than it was. That's all it was. A simple 'you won't believe what happened' conversation I might have with my friends over coffee.
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    I must admit, I am a bit puzzled that you genuinely didn't expect the repercussions of posting such a thing. Coffee with friends is one thing, posting it on a forum is quite another! Anyway, I hope today is better for you OP

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    Ok I'm a bit stunned now tbh so am stepping away.

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    Wow the way some people are reacting is as if Tamtam asked her to move her child mid change off the change table so she could change her DD.

    Other than Tamtam, none of us were there. So speculating on the woman's circumstances doesn't make Tamtam wrong in this situation.

    It's called courtesy. It works both ways.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fleetwood View Post
    I must admit, I am a bit puzzled that you genuinely didn't expect the repercussions of posting such a thing. Coffee with friends is one thing, posting it on a forum is quite another! Anyway, I hope today is better for you OP
    Um. probably because I've never started a thread that turned out like this!!! And seriously yes...BH to me is like chatting with friends over coffee. Why? Because I've never been part of anything controversial before (that I can think of. .I usually don't post in those threads much).

    I thought people would disagree but couldn't have anticipated that people would take this tangent.

    Anyway. .. I thinks it been done now. We should all just go on with our day.

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