I need helps ladies and I'm at breaking point! I just don't know what to do anymore. My dd, 8.5 months old, 7 months corrected (arrived prem), will only fall asleep being breastfeed. That's not the bit that concerns me - it's just getting beyond a joke because she wakes at every sleep cycle (40 mins?) even at night. She has become worse as she gets older. She wakes and wants to feed. She mostly just suckles and doesn't actually feed. From about 3am onwards I have to bring her into my bed and let her constantly suckle with the boob in her mouth. I used to be able to take her off and cuddle into me and co-sleep for the remainder of the night but now it's boob in mouth or she isn't going back to sleep! As you can imagine it's very uncomfortable for me to sleep like this and make sure she is safe so I don't sleep properly at all.
She seems to go down to sleep ok at night around 7.30pm but the night waking begins about 40-60 mins later. I've tried offering a dummy - she pulls it out of her mouth in such disgust and gets quite upset that I would offer suck an inferior substitute! Also tried sending dh in to settle her, again she opens her eyes to see it's him and she is disgusted and angry it's not me with the boob!
I have the option to go to the Brisbane nurture centre sleep clinic but that's not for another 6 weeks or so. I want to go there but I am afraid at how bad she will take it and how upsetting it will be for her and I. I know the practice responsive settling and will teach me to shush and pat her. It's not that I am incapable of doing this myself, but my god she screams the house down when I have tried this. I tried it last night because she was getting annoyed at me for removing the boob and trying to get her back into the cot. She will only allow me to put her back 2-3 times and then it's like she's regained enough energy to fight back hard and insist I let her in the bed.
Sorry it's a big of a ramble I just don't know what to do and would appreciate any advice? Has anyone been in this situation - what did you do? I'm so tired and this is part of the problem, I give in...