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    Quote Originally Posted by Little Ted View Post

    My DH blamed me for my first mc and said so himself. Yet he wouldn't take leave from a work meeting just once over a matter of months so that I could get into the doctor's earlier. My doctor's appt was scheduled for 2 days after I gave birth to the baby at 19 weeks which was then useless. Today is the 2 year anniversary since we had that first loss and I doubt he will remember let alone say anything.
    God that's awful. I am so sorry to read what you wrote. I agree with FL. I don't think he's behaving like a good father at all.

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    I have to agree that being a good parent isn't as simple as loving your kids and having fun with them - it also requires being respectful and taking responsibility.

    "He turns every issue that I have about us and our relationship, about how I'm not doing something for him.."
    This bit bothers me. Is he interested in improving your relationship? If so, maybe you need to do some reading together regarding effective communication and problem solving in relationships. It sounds like he may be so focused on his interpretation that he's missing how you see things. If he's genuinely interested in your relationship though, working on conflict-solving skills could help you to improve your relationship for both of you, rather than one of you trying to change for the other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nomia View Post
    He doesn't understand that I carry the stress and anxiety of money management, he doesn't believe I appreciate him, so I go above and beyond with that and then at the end of the day, I'm doing things I don't want to do. He turns every issue that I have about us and our relationship, about how I'm not doing something for him.. so, I work on it and get left behind. Sorry for the rant.
    You have explained exactly how my XH was like. I have never been able to find the words to the describe the way he was, but this is it ! Wow. In a way he was selfish, in that it was everything that HE wanted not what WE wanted. No matter if we could afford it, I had to find a will or a way to find the money that he needed for the thing/s he wanted. Nevermind about what I wanted, or what I needed, I just had to suck it up ! I was getting sick of always sitting on the back burner. Towards the end of my relationship, he used to call me a bank. Hmmm, well your bank isn't going to make anymore withdrawls for you buddy LOL.

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