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    No I don't do everything because it would be impossible for me to not be physically and emotionally drained by it.

    DH does 50% of housework and gardening. I make dinner during the week (usually) and he does weekends. He makes his own lunch plus mine and kids so I've got it ready in the fridge and can get it quickly when they get hungry. I make their other snacks for going out each morning.

    I am up with a baby during the night and we agree my 'job' is too look after the kids not to do all housework too.

    It works for us

    Edit: also this is the same whether I am working or not

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    I do about 70%, DH Does all the outside stuff, he mops, helps with the animals etc.

    I've mentioned it before but we have a 7pm rule. Our kids go to bed between 6:30 & 7pm - and until 7pm DH and I both just get in therr and do what needs doing. And at 7pm we stop and relax for the night. Works really well for us.

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    Quote Originally Posted by peanutmonkey View Post
    I do about 70%, DH Does all the outside stuff, he mops, helps with the animals etc.

    I've mentioned it before but we have a 7pm rule. Our kids go to bed between 6:30 & 7pm - and until 7pm DH and I both just get in therr and do what needs doing. And at 7pm we stop and relax for the night. Works really well for us.

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    I mentioned that rule to DF and we've adopted it for ourselves. Before, he's sit down and I'd 'just finish' whatever job I was doing. By the time I got to him, he was half asleep. We hadn't realized just how disconnected we'd become. So thank you for sharing that!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ChickyBee View Post
    I mentioned that rule to DF and we've adopted it for ourselves. Before, he's sit down and I'd 'just finish' whatever job I was doing. By the time I got to him, he was half asleep. We hadn't realized just how disconnected we'd become. So thank you for sharing that!
    Oh thats great, im glad it helped! It really helps us too, that way neither of us feel taken advantage of etc.

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    I do everything except mowing/pool stuff ( as of this year I work 2 ish days a week ) but I made it that way as DH works 6 days and long hours and when he gets home I wanted him just to be able to play with DS, but , lucky for me he gets up with DS in the morning and gets his brekky and baths/showers him and let's me sleep in until he has to go to work! He will of course do anything if I asked him but it's pretty easy as it's just the 3 of us and I usually have plenty of time

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    Neither of us really have a set routine or anything, DP usually cooks and I bake (which is funny, because DP is a baker by trade), we take turns at the dishes, I do the laundry, finances and general cleaning up and he helps take care of the kids when I zone out at night. I would like it to be more structured and we are definitely working on that..

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    I do 85% of the cooking, all the cleaning, all the laundry, 80% of the grocery shopping. I do all the dishes. I also do the accounts for the business and pay all the bills.
    He looks after DD's needs about 3hrs a week, the rest of the time it's all me.
    He does the bins on collection night and waters all the plants (we don't really have a yard, just potted plants on the 4 balconies).

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    Hmm... my mum did everything. Still does, even though my dad's retired and she works one day a week.


    My partner works an average of about 11-12 hours a day, 6 days a week.
    I have paid work maybe 1 day a fortnight.
    We have 1 DD, 19 months.

    I do whatever needs to be done during the day; look after DD, feed her, take her out places, a bit of housework, most of the washing and tidying up.
    DP does most of the dishes, dos bath/bed with DD, some cooking, most of the car-related stuff.

    DP spends far more hours doing "work" of any kind than I do... but it works for us. We're both happy, which is what matters

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    Hubby- gets bub out of bed of a morning and changes get while I prepare breakfast, I clean up after breaky while he plays with her. After 1-2 hrs he goes to work.
    He comes home and straight away helps me bath/feed/play/put her to bed. I prepare dinner while he puts her to bed and showers.
    I also load and empty dishwasher, clean house, cook dinner 5x a week,do washing. He does all hard work and house maintenance, empties bins, cooks 1-2 x a week.
    Before bub I did nothing around the house I was so lazy lol

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    I was a SAHM for the last 5 years and probably did do more than dh because I was home more but when he finished work dh chipped in half (sometimes more). When he was home we would take turns in baths, dinners, bedtime and getting up at night even though he worked all day. It wasn't like that in the early days as I think we both had unrealistic expectations of me being able to do it all........ which I couldn't.

    I suffered severe pnd and needed regular short breaks. I was incredibly fortunate that dh realised this and regularly chipped in with all the chores as well as taking over completely on days when I couldn't cope at all.


 

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