I know what you mean @twentysomething - I really want to have a family but a bit nervous about the whole thing (particularly about actually giving birth, might have to get over that!). I think there is never a perfect time and I'm never going to feel 100% good about the painful bits but in the grand scheme of life it will only be a tiny time... I started taking I-folic before I went off the pill because I had read some things that said you should take it for a month prior, some that said three months, and figured it couldn't hurt to take it for three before TTC. Once we conceive I will see whether the doc suggests something else but I think these are a good start. Can't believe we are at this stage of our lives, but also can't wait!