No advice as such but here's my recent experience (DS is 10 wks old)
Full on labour in the car was the worst and I only had a 20 min drive. If I had my time again I'd leave at the first sign of painful contractions and in saying that, we only waited an hour. We were only at the hospital for 2.5 hours before he was born and waters didn't break until right before he was born so don't count on that as a trigger.
Breathing went out the window - I screamed like a banshee but ended up just using gas - actually that regulated my breathing and gave me something to concentrate on. Give in to your body - it knows what it's doing!!
The BEST advice I was given during the pushing stage was "chin to chest and push through your bum - no sound because that releases your energy"
Worked - got him out quick when his heart rate dropped.
I can't remember the rest of your questions so I may post again
As for pain relief in hospital, I didnt have an epi but used a labour tens machine which I found fantastic.
Hope that helps
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I did a hypnobirthing course which helped immensely as they went into more depth about all the things to expect, as well as pain relief options etc. It helped me not be scared of labor and DH too.
Like your husband, mine had no experience with babies or kids but he learned a lot in the hospital (eg nappies, how to bath baby, give a bottle etc). Get him to watch "The Happiest Baby on the Block" on DVD (or find some youtube clips from it), my DH learnt to swaddle and settle bubs from this, which was a huge help after feedings in the middle of the night.
Lastly on the topic of dads my other tip is let them do as much as possible. I've had friends who didn't think their husbands were up to the job and would end up doing everything themselves, then finding that they didn't feel confident leaving bubs with their husbands. Apart from breastfeeding (if you're doing that), dads can do everything too so give him a chance
Good luck and enjoy being a new parent! (Oh and I loved my epidural!)
Def wait as long as possible before going up to the hospital :-)
Don't know about epidurals, sorry.
I think raspberry leave tablets helped. I had raspberry leave tea with ds1 and dd and both we're late. Had the tablets with Ds2 and he was on time. They seemed stronger. Best of luck op!!
Totally agree with silent pushing thru bum chin to chest
Thank you for all of your replies so far. You have all been so helpful and it's great to hear from experienced people!
I'd also highly recommend the book Birth Skills by Juju Sundin. She goes through lots of practical strategies for the different stages and levels of pain.
I used a fit ball for labouring at home and thought it was great for staying active and getting through contractions. I definitely recommend it!
Dh stayed in contact with the hospital and gave them updates/ asked advice on when to come in because my waters broke early on and my contractions weren't consistent. I'd have a few rounds of 4mins apart then I'd get a 7minute then back to 4 so we found it quite confusing! Just call the hospital if you aren't sure.
At hospital, I used controlled breathing, gas and focused on a painting in the room. I think staying active really helps progress things, I wish I moved about more at hospital. My lower back was in a lot of pain so I found myself sitting alot, I would walk from the chair to the toilet and back again but didn't do much else. I had a really long labour and think it would have helped to get moving!
Can't offer much advice on the raspberry tablets but I can safely say the raspberry leaf tea didn't work for me at all and I drank it religiously, upping the intake as I neared my due date.
Subbing as I'm 32 weeks and appreciating all the info too! Thanks OP
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