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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    The votes are in, so the claws are out. Again!
    Meow!!

    Op, you mentioned they used to sleep together, do you think this is just a phase? I added a kitten into the house when my cat was 3. It took time but in the end they were ok. It must be hard for you. Go with what you think is best for the cats and your family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheekychook View Post
    Meow!!
    Op, you mentioned they used to sleep together, do you think this is just a phase? I added a kitten into the house when my cat was 3. It took time but in the end they were ok. It must be hard for you. Go with what you think is best for the cats and your family.
    They still had fights when they were sleeping together.. I think that the younger cat has just learnt to steer clear. Since my DD has come along.. I think she likes to hang out with her instead.. as DD doesn't torment her.

    It's been 4 years.. and I feel I have tried everything. I will have a look into a behavior specialist and also going to speak to the vet again.

    I would never send him to an animal shelter.. he would never cope.

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    Quote Originally Posted by crazyaboutbubs View Post
    They still had fights when they were sleeping together.. I think that the younger cat has just learnt to steer clear. Since my DD has come along.. I think she likes to hang out with her instead.. as DD doesn't torment her.

    It's been 4 years.. and I feel I have tried everything. I will have a look into a behavior specialist and also going to speak to the vet again.

    I would never send him to an animal shelter.. he would never cope.

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    Must be so difficult, I really feel for you.

    You don't have a family member who would take him? I'm sure you've gone through every possible scenario. I hope it works out.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cheekychook View Post
    Must be so difficult, I really feel for you.

    You don't have a family member who would take him? I'm sure you've gone through every possible scenario. I hope it works out.
    I will keep trying.. I swear he knows how I'm feeling. He has been overly affectionate today and barely left my side. He did still pick a few fights today.. but less then usual.

    My uncle may take him.. he is the only family I have that doesn't already have cats that I know would treat him great. But I don't want to ask him until I'm really really sure. Will suss out the behaviorist and vet again first.

    I have thought about rehoming him before but can never go through with it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    Do you think you're funny and/or clever? You're behaving tonight like my preschooler does when he's trying to pick a fight with me. It's boring and nasty.
    So to have a different opinion, to highlight, in order to try and prevent other people making the same heartbreaking mistake (yes I am an animal lover), that the OP made a bad call, is to try and be funny or clever? I thought this was within the framework of the thread since the Op asked "Am I doing the right thing for him? Or I am just doing the right thing for everyone else?." Next time I will be quiet and let people continue to make mistakes at the poor animals expense.

    Apologies OP if this has hurt your feelings. Good luck rehoming your cat.
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    The op stated her guilt at bringing the new cat in many years ago, and her guilt at considering to rehome one of her pets. She wanted opinions on what she should do now about the situation not what she should have done 4 years ago. I personally think your comments are useless as they only make her feel worse about it.

    OP, I agree look into a family member taking him if possible or rehome him yourself. It sounds as if you have tried many avenues before this one. Best of luck.

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    Not the same situation but may be an idea for you - when my neutered male was getting into lots of fights with neighbourhood cats he had some injections at the vet of female hormones... Calmed him down a bit for a few months in summer when it was at its worst. Not good for them long term, but it helped get us through a difficult phase for him! Hope it turns out ok it must be very difficult for you to consider rehoming a loved pet.

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    There are rescue groups who can help. Go onto pet rescue online and there is a directory of them. It will be a safer option for you as rescue groups will check out the families they go to and they may have a spare foster carer to look after your cat whilst they rehome him.

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    OP if we lived in the same state I would take him.

    You have no need to feel awful..
    It's a normal question to ask and it seems to me you are just trying to work out the best solution for all of you.

    Introducing a new cat is not predictable and you did nothing wrong.

    I know a few people who breed cats in your state I will ask if they know of anyone who can help rehome or offer advice.

    It's such a tug of war when you just want peace.


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