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    Default Rehoming Pets

    I never thought I would be in this situation.. I usually judge those that need to rehome there pets, and now I am the one considering it.

    We have 2 cats - both rescued from an animal shelter.

    Our first cat is a 6yo male and is a very affectionate cat, but can also be really anxious. I'm assuming he has a dark history in his first 6 months of life, before he came to us. He generally sleeps all day and will sometimes come for a cuddle. He avoids any strangers and our 1 year old mostly.

    We had him for a couple of years before we got our female cat, who is very affectionate and if you are sitting still she will want cuddles, friendly with all visitors and is best friends with our 1yo DD. Always plays with her and really gentle and laid back.

    The issue? Our male cat bullies and abuses our female cat constantly. I thought it might be a phase at the begining, but to be honest.. it's been 4 years. He will go up to her for no reason and attack her. She will try to get away and hiss and growl but she is submissive and basically just cops it. He has never caused any wounds.. but she is being traumitised by him.

    I am constantly seperating them and I feel I am forever growling at the male and putting him out in the cold (he doesn't like outdoors much)

    I have spoken to vets about treatment but its behavioral and the meds dont work the way they should.

    I really should have rehomed him or her years ago because they should not be together but I have felt so awful even considering getting rid of a pet.

    I don't want to rehome my DDs best friend.. so that leaves our male cat. I honestly think he needs an older home with no other pets where he can just sleep and has no 'threats' or stress.

    I don't even know what this thread is for - does anyone have any advice or experience?

    Am I doing the right thing for him? Or I am just doing the right thing for everyone else?

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    Victoria. SE Suburbs.

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    I was thinking of asking a few family members first as they may take him.. but am still unsure about it, so haven't asked.

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    Have you tried feliway? It's a spray that can help anxious cats. Especially males and you can buy it from pet shops

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    Up here there's a local am radio station that advertises rehoming for pets. .. Do you have something similar?
    The listeners are mainly older folk who may have lost a pet and aren't looking for a kitten/puppy... but an older pet for company. ...
    Maybe worth looking into?? A Google search?

    Honestly if it's got to that point with your cats it sounds like a good option.. and if you can find a situation like I described you get to meet the new owners and decide for yourself.
    (I've rehomed a cat I had many years ago. .I was devastated so I can understand your dilemma).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zeddie View Post
    Have you tried feliway? It's a spray that can help anxious cats. Especially males and you can buy it from pet shops
    I was going to suggest this. You can get one that you plug into the PowerPoint and it just sprays on timer. It's meant to relax them. Worth a try I guess.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zeddie View Post
    Have you tried feliway? It's a spray that can help anxious cats. Especially males and you can buy it from pet shops
    Yes, it either did nothing or possibly even made him worse. It was so expensive I didn't continue.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tamtam View Post
    Up here there's a local am radio station that advertises rehoming for pets. .. Do you have something similar?
    The listeners are mainly older folk who may have lost a pet and aren't looking for a kitten/puppy... but an older pet for company. ...
    Maybe worth looking into?? A Google search?

    Honestly if it's got to that point with your cats it sounds like a good option.. and if you can find a situation like I described you get to meet the new owners and decide for yourself.
    (I've rehomed a cat I had many years ago. .I was devastated so I can understand your dilemma).

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    I will have a look around - definitely want to find him the right home.

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    If you have no option but to put him up for adoption then please try to find him a home yourself. The RSPCA and pounds are inundated with cats which are not kept indefinitely if they fail to find a home, many end up euthanized.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tainted View Post
    If you have no option but to put him up for adoption then please try to find him a home yourself. The RSPCA and pounds are inundated with cats which are not kept indefinitely if they fail to find a home, many end up euthanized.
    Yup or if you decide to surrender to a rescue then try for a no kill rescue.

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