At the end of the day it's not the teacher who gets to choose how the child spends the money. That's up to the child, and a child of 8 years of age would be heavily influenced by her teacher. I think the TA's heart was in the right place but it was very much mishandled.
Last edited by Sonja; 09-05-2014 at 22:32.
I think the TA has gone about her charity collecting in the wrong way.
If fundraising is to be done at school parents should be informed beforehand.
Id be annoyed if id given my child $5 to buy a gift and they'd felt forced/pressured to donate to charity instead.
Does it really matter if you buy your bread from woolies or the local bakery?
Last edited by VicPark; 09-05-2014 at 23:03.
It just doesn't sit right with me.... I would argue that raising money from people (that may or may not lack the capacity to really understand what you are asking) and that you exercise power of authority over so they may also feel pressured into doing something they don't really want to do on days when you specifically know they are cashed up is wrong. The child also told her mum she would of liked change but lacked the maturity and confidence to ask for it off the TA...
Honestly, if it were me, I would have said to my dd how much of a lovely gesture it was and explained to her that her gift could potentially save the life of someone else's mum. It sounds like she wanted to donate, but was upset that she didn't get change so she didn't have a gift for you. I think it's all about how you reacted to it, If you painted it in a positive light then I think she would feel really good about her gift. I would take it up with the teacher later on if you are really feeling upset about it and get the full details of how the children were approached. Sounds like a lot of assumptions in here, I would wait until you've spoken to the teacher and know exactly how the situation was handled.
Ok I'm going to put my two cents in. I will probably get flamed but oh well. I agree with the majority that the TA should not have pressured the children for the money. I get that she may have been trying to teach the kids about charity but it's not on.
What I actually really object to is someone else deciding what charity my money is going to. I would have sent my child with money to buy something from the stall with the knowledge that it was to raise funds for the school. Having the money go to breast cancer would annoy me. We have charities we donate to which do not get the money that breast cancer does. Don't get me wrong I wouldn't take any money away from breast cancer but I would prefer my money goes to other less known organizations that need the funds.
I don't think I would have been jumping up and down, but I definitely wouldn't have been happy and would be making sure the TA knew that my child would not be contributing without my permission in the future.
Yes, donating to charity is an awesome thing to teach kids. Getting that donation from kids who have taken that money to school for something else isn't awesome.
I understand completely why your dd was upset. I hope she cheers up when she goes out to buy you a gift OP
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