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    We got a letter home from school requesting $5 for each child to spend at the mothers day stall, priced from $1-$3.
    All good, sent all 3 with their $5.

    Pick kids up from school and there is a whole lot of parents demanding time from dd2's teacher due to an issue.

    Dd1 meets us at her sisters class doing the "I can't wait to show you what I chose for you Mummy". Dd2 bursts into tears.

    Her TA was collecting money for the breast cancer foundation, and asking kids to donate their mothers day money and in return she gave them a 'I donated' sticker to give to their Mums.

    Dd2 is 8 and she understands donating to charities, but was upset she didn't get any change, and said she felt forced to.
    I didn't join the angry mothers, but am a little bit peeved that they approached the kids for money without notification to the parents. For example if it had been written in the note that they were collecting, I would have sent her with a bit of change to give.

    What do you think?

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    I would be angry too. Fundraising for a charity and holding a mother's day stall are completely different events IMO. I would be taking it up with the teacher and ta.

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    I would happily donate money to breast cancer if asked however that doesn't sit right with me neither. It feels a bit dishonest and like its taking advantage of vulnerable children who we all know can be easily manipulated. I don't see why it couldn't have been included in the letter that was sent home as an option.

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    I'd be cranky too! I think it's really sneaky and manipulative of the TA to do that, to be honest. I get that teaching kids about charity is a great thing, but as a child I would definitely have even disappointed to feel like I had to choose between something to show my mum how much I love her (which, let's face it, kids tend to think Mother's Day gifts are about) and being a good person and donating to charity. Big hugs to your dd for choosing charity, but she shouldn't have been put in that position in the or at place!

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    Ohhh!
    Not on!
    This has happened my DS1 once too, not for mother's day though.
    I gave him $2 for the canteen and he told me his teacher took it from him for a gold coin donation???
    I never followed that up actually.

    Coincidentally I saw an ad on T.V about donating to Breast Cancer Awareness or Pink Ribbon, something or other, instead of receiving a Mother's day gift!
    And I just thought, for crying out loud can we not have ONE day?!

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    I agree with has already been said
    Nothing wrong with donating my kids class have done it many times but the parents are always informed. How your dd's class went about it was wrong

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    I feel a little better knowing others wouldn't have been too happy either. I don't know how to go about it now though. Do I give her another $5 and get DH to take her to a gimmicky type shop, or let the donation stand?

    If it makes any difference they went shopping earlier in the week with DH to buy my 'big' gift.

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    If it were me, I would give your DD2 another $5 so she can go and buy you something just like she intended and just like her sisters got to.

    I don't think it's the TA's job to teach philanthropy when the kids had money intended for the Mother's Day stall and I would have been a bit miffed too, and I am all for donating for breast cancer awareness, but it's the principle of the thing.
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    Doesn't sit right with me either. Collecting for a noble cause is a great thing, however giving a child their chance to gift their mother a specially chosen present is a great thing too. I would be saying something.
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    I'd also be annoyed as the money raised from those stalls are usually P&C funds that go back into the school. so yes it's a $5 gift but it's also for a good cause.

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