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    Default What steps to take

    I want to leave my husband. He emotionally bullies me and few other things. We have talked and talked.

    Right now I have asked for separation- hes refusing. Saying I wont cope. I really don't kniw what to do. He gives me such anxiety to the stress I have with my sick son.

    Can you please tell me what I need to do

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    Oh im so sorry

    Do you have anywhere you can go stay with the kids? Family? A friends house?

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    No I don't have any other support its why ive stayed for so long creating my 'happy world'.

    He plays with my mind saying I fed our son. U can stay up all night because u got your hair done. Just horrible things. I am shaking writing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    No I don't have any other support its why ive stayed for so long creating my 'happy world'.

    He plays with my mind saying I fed our son. U can stay up all night because u got your hair done. Just horrible things. I am shaking writing.

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    Oh hun. You should not have to feel that way at all. I hope someone else has more practical advice, I just dont know what to suggest xo

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    I think it's wise to leave if he treats you with no respect and bullies you.

    You can do this on your own, he just doesn't want you to think you can. You're much better off without toxic people in your life.

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    I think the steps you need to take are

    1) contact centrelink to see what you're entitled to
    2) start making arrangements to leave (how far away is your family?)
    3) tell him you ate serious and that you are in the process of taking steps to leave

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    Hey Monnie, I'm sorry you're going through this especially with your son. I've been following your journey and it would be so much harder with a spouse who is bullying you.

    Have you got somewhere to stay with your children?

    Have you got an income? I.e. Centrelink

    Contact a lawyer.

    Collect and keep all important documents in a safe place.

    Surround yourself with people who support you and your decision.

    If you don't have people around to help you then do it in little steps. If you're scared of what your husband might do don't tell him what you plan and just slowly collect things. Save a bit of cash. Have you got two cars?

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    What are important documents? Bank? Birth certs? We get family tax and hubby isnt working atm.

    How do I contact a lawyer does it have to be family lawyer

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    Does he have somewhere he can go? His family, a mate? Him saying "you can't cope"...just because you are separated doesn't mean he can't help. It may actually be better. You drop the kids off to him and go home and have a break for a few hrs.

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    I'd contact centrelink and make an appointment to see a social worker. They will be able to help you get on the appropriate payments, and prehaps refer you to other organisations that can help.

    If he is verbally and emotionally abusive, have you considered contacting the DV line? They may be able to place you in a refuge. Whilst at a refuge, you will receive help with centrelink, family law issues, DVO's, pretty much anything really.

    Have you got a separate bank account? Could you stash away some emergency funds?

    I know it's tough with no support. It was my biggest dilemma when I had decided to leave. I got there in the end so will you. Good luck and I hope things improve for you soon!

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