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    Default Help!!! Harrasment/discrimination

    Hey Ladies,

    just wanted to get your opinion on this comment from one of my 3 bosses today...

    One of my bosses just said in front of the whole office. It's the same boss that asked how far along i was then counted backwards to see what day my partner and I ****ed!
    "Kelly has conceived on the Epping train line" if u aren't aware with the news in Victoria a couple werein trouble a month ago of making a porno on a train line.
    I straight away told him it was so inappropriate for him to say that. And what a wonderful way for my colleagues to find out! No one said anything or even congrats coz it was ****ing awkward.
    To say I feel humiliated is a huge understatement!!!
    Then he said quietly to me "u can't let a good story get in the way of something even if it isn't true".
    I'm so embarrassed and struggling to hold tears in till I finish at 4pm. I want to leave now.

    I don't know what to do coz if I quit then I don't get paternty leave from the goverment, I will have to stay till mid August I think, my baby is due Oct.

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    Wow that is SO out of line I would be livid! Having a baby is a beautiful thing he made it sound so crass. What a pig!

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    Hi there

    That's terrible, you poor thing having to put up with that!

    I have had similar issues with my boss, although mine has been ongoing for a few years and is finally improving.

    I would suggest you write everything down, document everything he says/does that you find inappropriate to ensure you don't forget any details.

    You also need to contact your union (if you aren't already a member I'd suggest joining) - they will support you and provide invaluable advice. Also the HR Department where you work.

    He is being inappropriate and you shouldn't have to put up with it. Deal with it (through the Union/HR) ASAP so he knows he can't do this to you again.

    Good luck, I know how hard it can be dealing with this stuff whilst pregnant.

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    What a revolting pig

    It's inappropriate, vulgar and highly unprofessional.



    I wouldn't know what to do

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    Well I don't know what to do as I have 3 bosses and 1 manager my manager who is a lady was standing next to me when it was said and didn't say anything.

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    if you have a head office or hr department I would contact them and tell them what happened. that may even be gross misconduct to say somethi g like that!!
    its a blessing and dont allow him to make it anything other than that!! congrats btw

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    I think you need to report it. You shouldn't have to quit because of his inappropriate behaviour

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    Just on hold to the human rights commission I'll let u know how I go

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    So I just spoke to the human rights commission. It is sexiest and unlawful to make degrading remarks about a woman's pregnancy and I am entitled to make a formal complaint with them.
    If I made a complaint with them and was made reduntent as a result than that is considered victimisation and they would be up for compensation.
    Still not worth risking my job as I need the government pay after I have the baby. Well prob don't need it but it would make things easier.
    Unfortunelty there is no HR department as I work for a very small work place.

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    I don't think you should quit if its just this one occasion. I think that would be over reacting!

    Agree that what he said was inappropriate, but not overly serious or discriminating. The comment itself isn't offensive, its just that you made the connection with the train line incident. Incidently I'm not in Vic so I know nothing about this incident. Some managers don't know what is the right or wrong thing to say sometimes. He probably thought it was just a laugh & didn't think about your feelings.

    I'm sorry to hear that this has effected you this much. If there is someone in your company you can talk to about it, that would be a good idea first. Do you have a hr department? Would you feel comfortable going to your other manager & telling them how you feel?

    If the inappropriate comments continue then it could become a harassment complaint.


 

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