+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    653
    Thanks
    817
    Thanked
    217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts

    Default Out of control 4yo with attitude!

    How do you deal with it? Do you let anything fly or do they spend all day in time out? I wish I could find something that worked long term to curve DDs behaviour.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Feb 2014
    Location
    Cessnock, NSW
    Posts
    31
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked
    8
    Reviews
    0
    I found the naughty corner worked on my DD, she still has attitude but nothing like she used to have. If she misbehaves or something I grab her by the hand put her in the corner and don't say a word to her. After a few minutes I go and explain what she did wrong.

    Sent from my bite mark free Galaxy Note 3

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to firedad For This Useful Post:

    Mummy Potato  (06-05-2014)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Posts
    17,747
    Thanks
    5,085
    Thanked
    8,691
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by FITCHICK View Post
    How do you deal with it? Do you let anything fly or do they spend all day in time out? I wish I could find something that worked long term to curve DDs behaviour.
    What is she doing? I found the book "Raising your Spirited Child" really helpful when I was at the end of my tether with my first.

  5. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to misskittyfantastico For This Useful Post:

    MilkingMaid  (08-05-2014),Mummy Potato  (06-05-2014)

  6. #4
    Join Date
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    923
    Thanks
    229
    Thanked
    224
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Subbing. My ds1 spends all day in time out and it doesn't phase him. He'll just sit there and sing a song or find something to fiddle with then goes straight back to craziness when I let him down. Drives me insane

  7. The Following User Says Thank You to twolittlemunchkins For This Useful Post:

    Mummy Potato  (06-05-2014)

  8. #5
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    653
    Thanks
    817
    Thanked
    217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by misskittyfantastico View Post
    What is she doing? I found the book "Raising your Spirited Child" really helpful when I was at the end of my tether with my first.
    Just things I would expect 2 year olds to do. Throwing things at me, ripping all of her dresses out of her cupboard, getting my drink bottle out of my bag and pouring it on the carpet, back chatting every question with 'why' and when she doesn't like my response mouthing off/with attitude. Just to name a few.

  9. #6
    Join Date
    Dec 2005
    Posts
    17,747
    Thanks
    5,085
    Thanked
    8,691
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Awards:
    Past Moderator - Thank you
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by FITCHICK View Post
    Just things I would expect 2 year olds to do. Throwing things at me, ripping all of her dresses out of her cupboard, getting my drink bottle out of my bag and pouring it on the carpet, back chatting every question with 'why' and when she doesn't like my response mouthing off/with attitude. Just to name a few.
    What do you do when she does these things? Does she have any special needs? Is there a behavioural psych or an OT you could speak to.

  10. #7
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    653
    Thanks
    817
    Thanked
    217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Yes she has ASD, ODD & ADD. We've been seeing oodles of therapists. Our first OT appointment is next Thursday and I just can't wait!

    When she does these things she goes in time out & yells at me from time out 'I'm sorry mum, I'm sorry mum' (she's not really, she just knows that that is what she is supposed to say) the whole time she's there.

    After 4 minutes I go to get her off, I explain why she is there, ask her to apologise & tell me she won't do it again/what she could do next time instead, she doesn't care/it doesn't curb her behaviour.

    I've also smacked a couple of times, sticker charts, going OTT with praise for good behaviour, it doesn't help.

    She's been quite in the comp room for 10 minutes now, just snuck in there to give her a 'good girl DD', she's ripped up the bills we had sitting on the computer desk, stuck paper clips in between the keys in the keyboard & has pulled most of the curtain chains off the verticals. Some days I just can't be bothered!

  11. #8
    SuperGranny's Avatar
    SuperGranny is offline Worlds best grandma! Winner 2012 - Most Helpful Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Location
    sunshine coast qld
    Posts
    6,162
    Thanks
    4,572
    Thanked
    2,753
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    hi fitchick, to quote dr phil. what is her currency?? what does she value? sitting on a chair for 4 mins has no effect, there has to be something else that will make an impact on her. ?? what if you had her to sit still, and you stood there watching her?? removing her toys? I knew a family who gave liquid cod liver oil as a punishment. One teaspoon for small misdeeds and up to 20 mls for really bad stuff. I don't know what the parents did if the child refused to take the oil. It worked well, no one wanted to have to take the crap. perhaps more ot therapies will give you some help. Marie.

  12. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to SuperGranny For This Useful Post:

    GingerKat  (08-05-2014),Mummy Potato  (08-05-2014)

  13. #9
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Location
    Newcastle
    Posts
    653
    Thanks
    817
    Thanked
    217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    The only 2 things she really values, are her cuddle toy (a pig) and food :-/

    I'd feel horrible taking pig away

  14. #10
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Posts
    4,222
    Thanks
    894
    Thanked
    3,219
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    No, don't take her cuddle toy.

    Time out worked brilliantly for my Aspie, but I'm guessing that ODD would make that more difficult.

    Do you see a psych? My DS's psych is amazing with giving us step by step strategies to follow in regards to all aspects of his behaviour. I couldn't survive without her!

  15. The Following User Says Thank You to CMF For This Useful Post:

    Mummy Potato  (08-05-2014)


 

Similar Threads

  1. My 10 Year olds attitude sucks!
    By Orsumdad in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 11
    Last Post: 19-12-2013, 12:18
  2. Replies: 41
    Last Post: 14-07-2013, 20:06
  3. Help! 8yr old DD with so much attitude
    By hoping41more in forum School aged children
    Replies: 19
    Last Post: 12-05-2013, 07:57

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Nice Pak Products
Australian Made and Owned. The Baby U Goat Milk Skincare range is enriched with soothing goats milk sourced from country, Victoria. Goat's milk has a pH level close to that of our own skin and contains natural sources of amino acids and vitamins.
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
Vibe Natural Health
Your natural health care team for fertility, pregnancy, post natal and family health care. Our Naturopaths, Doctors, Osteopaths, Acupuncturists, Psychologists,Nutritionists, Pilates, & Massage specialise in women & children's health and wellbeing.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!