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    Default Separation and dating

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    It depends on what rules you've set with your separation. I would think that if you've both decided to go your separate ways, then no, it isn't cheating at all

    ETA... I've just noticed this is on the single parents section! Sorry!

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    Personally I think if you have separated it's open slather, you can do what you want.
    Emotionally it might be hard to take if your partner up and got with someone else really quickly but technically you are separated so you can do what you want IMO.

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    Oh bleurgh it's such a minefield, isn't it? I won't bore you with my own struggles with this very question, but, going by what you've described... I'd say not cheating. If what you've said to your ex basically adds up to 'I no longer want to be in a relationship with you', and there is nothing that could make this a grey area ie still having s.ex sometimes, sharing a bed, calling it 'time apart for now' etc., then it actually doesn't need to be an 'agreement' IMO, if that makes sense. Your decision - are you in or out? If you're out, and you've been honest about it, then your behaviour, even though it may be hurtful, is not about being faithful or unfaithful any longer.

    That was very garbled, I hope it makes sense.

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    Being in a marriage where the other is withholding intimacy can send you all kinds of crazy...well, it did for me. So, I think you separating from him first and then only kissing and flirting with someone after that is pretty damn impressive and shows massive integrity. I don't think his attempts will fly here...

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    Oh wow.. You just made me cry.

    You know the feeling.. No one else does and I was the pathetic wife who never told my friends.. Just pretended all was perfect..

    But it sent me mad.. Eventually he told me I just wasn't attractive.. Ouch..

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    What a freaking moron.

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